Some help and advice needed with teenage sister?

hey my sister has just turned 17, 2nd of january.


She is without a doubt the brightest of my family, scoring 3 A's in GCSE's. but dropped out of college because the course she was on just wasnt what she wanted to do in life, so she now has a full time job in a small retail shop in town, and is planning to go back to college in September to join a different course.


Recentley she has been going out a bit more, she is a definate home girl, and never liked sleepovers, just wanted to stay home in her teens. but she has met some new friends, and has been going out with them and staying over. Which i understand totally. But she came to me this weekend saying she smoked weed for the first time and really enjoyed it and plans to do it again, even asked if i could get some for her. I smoked it when i was about 15, but never again. She has also confessed to me that her new friend has a friend who she has started to see. he is 21 so 4 years older. And she said to me she has been on 4 dates and is allready sexually active with him. I feel blessed that she has felt okay to tell me all this but has sworn me not to mention it to my mum or dad. Im 23 so do not live at home.


I have no idea what to do, she is to me, rebelling and enjoying her freedom, which is totally what i did. But i just dont know what to say to her :/ I have of course told her she needs to be careful sexually, and has promised me she is.


Helpp!Some help and advice needed with teenage sister?
I don't think there is very much else you can do but be there for her.


If she had been secretive about it then i think you would have had bigger problems to deal with. the fact that she's been open enough to share this with you suggest's that she trust's you enough to share her problems. continue to give her advice and be there for her when she needs you.


I'm sure that it'll blow over, just keep an eye on her...


Your sister will find out what kind of rat this guy is and that's when she'll need you most.


Sorry i've not been much help.


SJSome help and advice needed with teenage sister?
There is nothing you can do other than support her and keep repeating advice about safety. All teenagers rebel and hopefully she is mature and intelligent enough to not do anything too risky.
Like a things she wil take her own path and its good that she talks to you she must love you loads. all you can do is pick up the peaces when she falls. keep the trust going.
i dont think thers much you can do...dotn tell her not to do the things shesdoing, coz then she wont trust you and will just do them even more. just make sure she is being careful, and help her out with things. maybe explain to her you dont want her to smoke weed coz of all the things it does to your health, but dont tell her outright to stop coz shell just say you dont understand and stop talking to you.


i think if youre there for her when she needs you and try to set her a good example, shell pull through.
Hi the reason for your younger sister behaving like she dose is she is mixing with the wrong type of friends,getting her away from friends will be the first step.I am talk as a father figure if she carry on like she dose,she certainly is heading for big trouble,sex and drugs certainly don`t go hand in hand.At her age she should be having fun with friends of her own age.without the sex and drugs.


Make her see the error of her ways which won`t be easy,my advice would be to keep at it,at times you would want to do her harm her,don`t resort to violence.


Also at some stage you would have to tell your parents,but let that be your last resort.


I hope I have given you some good advice,good luck.
you should talk to her and if you don't listen then talk to your parents because if you don't talk to your parents they find it out soon or later and then you'll be charge for it and you'll be in pain for the rest of your life without saving your sisters life.she's playing with her life and it will get more and more so it is better you talk to her and your parents about it even she get angry with you don't worry about it because your only doing this to save her life.all her money will be going to buy weed and this guy is using your sister so do the right thing to save her out of this
this is what normal 17 year olds do. its not only a phase but its when they start getting oldeer %26amp;trying new things. she will eventually learn that there is more to life.... it may take moths or weeks or years but she will realize it. no worries though, if shes 17 she CAN fend for herself. just make sure you let her know your always there for her to talk to %26amp;youll never snitch her out. then the more she talks to you with her problems the more shell understand her own words when she gets them out-loud wich will also help her understand herself better. dont sweat it though, its normal stuff she will be fine (:


best wishes%26lt;3


youre a great big sister.