All mothers with teenage boys (ages 12-16), i need advice. i've never cared for them before?

my husband and i are seriously thinking about taking in 7 brothers (Adam is 16, Jeremy, 14, Kyle, 12, Cole, 8, Jacob, 7, Zachary, 3, and Braden, 11 mo.). I have a 10 yo and 5 yo boys already. but i don't know what to expect from teenagers. These boys seem very respectable and treat eachother and everyone around them with care and are very polite. but can you give me any advice on what to expect from teenage boys? any advice is welcome. thanks!!!All mothers with teenage boys (ages 12-16), i need advice. i've never cared for them before?
Teenagers, need allot of selflessness, love, respect, warmth, understanding,and praise, just like all age children. According to their age level.





My mother used to say ';little children, little problems, big children big problems.





However teenagers need a special something, as they have all kinds of hormonal changes going on. They are like blind people feeling their way through life. They are sorting out all different feeling, on an emotional, and physiological level. They are in between childhood, and adulthood. It takes allot of emotional strength to raise them.





You have to have allot of one on one contact with them, and have the time to give them. If you have the emotional makeup to be able give it to them then go for it. Just know that you have to be a full time mom. 24/7.





You do not have the luxury of giving them dinner, bath time, and then putting them to bed. Then having the evening to share with your husband.





If you have the wherewith all to do this, then go for it. But you must be one million pecent sure, before you take on the responsibility.





You also have to know that there will be allot of jealousy coming from your own children. They will not have the attention that you had time to give them before this ready made family moved in.





If you are financially well to do, that would be half the battle as you will have the ability to hire household help.





Good luck, you need all the strength you can get.





Sincerely,All mothers with teenage boys (ages 12-16), i need advice. i've never cared for them before?
First, make sure you give them discipline and lots of love and affection. They need hugs and love and care more than anything. Have dinner together at the table as often as you can. Give the older ones responsibilty for helping with the younger ones.
First off, all kids know EVERYTHING once they become teenagers. When they get in this mode...SMILE.. shake your head up and down, and then let them fall flat on their smarty pants little faces doing whatever absurd teenage thing they want to try. If they step too far over the line with any of their antic's then say NO, and stick to that answer. Always be in control or the ';important'; stuff. You have to set boundries. Don't tolerate them picking on each other, and be sure you have a structured sit down meal and converstation with them at least once a day to see what is going on in their lives. Limit them to ONE sport or activity at a time. School is their first and only real priority. Make them volunteer some video game time to help other's that are less fortunate. Sit back and enjoy. The ride will be fun!!!!
I'm guessing this is a foster situation for so many children,mostly siblings will help each other out especially when ages so close together, but they will have their moments of arguments that will be needed to sort out, put the younger children together to sleep and then the older ones separate 16,14,12. will seem easier because younger children sleep much earlier than older ones. a good bedtime for older children is around 9pm, however the 12 year old might crash out before that, teenagers on the other hand will want to stay up all night if you let them, 9.30 is good if they complain tell them its a school night and they need rest let them stay up a bit later on the weekends, the 3,7, and 8 year olds should be asleep by 8pm. This of course is just a guideline once you get used to a routine you will find a time that is good for you. happy parenting!
Problems!!!!
make sure they know the rule and the punishments up front. that way there will be no surprises. Stick to the rules, if you start bending them they will try to run over you. Some rules are:





1. curfew


2. homework


3. helping with house, dishes, trash, their rooms, etc.


4. trying best -to get the grade they can


5. politeness and respect for others and others things.





punishment depends on age and child





good luck
First off, I had to laugh at your description of these boys. Not many boys are polite and respectful!





I have two teenage boys, and they really are great. I haven't seen a lot of attitude changes from my boys, like I have with my daughter. They are still rough and tumble and like to play video games and legos.





Taking in 7 children is going to be a huge change, but if you feel it is best for your family, then go for it. It is great the brothers can all stay together. :)





Good luck with your adventure! :)
if a problem does happen talk to them
Wow, that's nice of you but wow. What are the circumstances? Are they homeless, abused, etc? All of these things will play a huge factor on what you can expect.