Teenage pregnancy? a bit of advice?

ok well my friend moved about 3 hours away from me last year we are really really close but she comes round alot because lots of her family still live around the area. she moved back here about 9 months ago because she found a boyfriend and wanted to be with him so her mother came with her and her dads still and their other house.. to cut a long story short shes pregnant and 16 and doesn't know what to do she doesn't want to tell her mother because she is scared and she doesn't know if she wants to keep it or abort it. what would be the best advice to give her and do you think she should tell her mother even if she was just going to have a termination i mean whats the point of even breaking her mums heart if she is just going to terminate the baby any way it would be over and done with? can you give me some advice please? thankyou xTeenage pregnancy? a bit of advice?
Well i already told you what it think and I hope you told her my advice. Either way she needs to tell her mother as she is not emotinally mature enough to make this sort of decision alone and as you have so many factors involved it will seem the best choice now to abort but that may not be what she truely wanted to do. If she does not want a termination and has one just so that she does not make her mother shout or cry well she will never forgive herself. You can look at it from the point of view that it is a baby and that you are going to kill it but on the other hand it is just a bundle of cells that will mutate into a living thing but at the moment it is just a parasite, a bunch of cells feeding of you like a cancer so all you people out there yelling murder need to keep your opnions to yourselves because you are not the ones in this situation and you would be thinking differently if it was your daughter so if you cant be helpful then i think silence is the way to go, this is a time where we need to give adivice to help the girl make the best decision for herself, her family and what could become her baby and change the lives of everyone she knows forever not just to yell murder. Whatever happens she needs to turn to her mother right now before this goes any further so that she will not be alone in making the hardest decision she will ever have to make and i worry that fear will push her going against her hearts desires. The main reason for being is to reproduce, it is the same for every creature on this earth we are here to carry on the spieces and to keep our place on the food chain. The female body is made to have children and to want to nurture them so i dont think adoption is the best way to go, that will be even harder than termination having to see the baby once all your hormones have changed, look at it once then give it away never knowing whether it went to safe place or even still alive and happy or if you will ever see then again, if they will hate you etc. Please please urge her to speak to her mother, tell her to go out to a friends house and send her mother a text, or and email or send a letter in the post. Or maybe she could ask one of her friends mothers to speak to her , there are so many ways if she cannot sit down with her and tell her. And sharing this information with her mother, for them to go through something like this together will strengthen their bond.Even in the darkest of times there is a light but you must look for it carfully or it could be consumed by the shadows.Teenage pregnancy? a bit of advice?
She should not terminate it. She needs to own up to the consequences of having sex. Maybe adoption would be best, but NOT termination.


Sounds to me like her parents aren't very good parents. I mean, they let her move back just to be with this new boyfriend? Are you sure her parents are not separating? That is very unusual.


Any ways, tell her to give it up for adoption. Tell her not to punish this baby because she had sex irresponsibly.
aww tell her to talkk to her mom the worst that is going to happen is her mom will be upset! nothing to big tell her a baby is a blessing and she will be ok with support
tell her do not have an abortion, that is evil.


adoption is in her best interest
keep it cuz u will have that berdun in ur mind
i agree with both carlos and silly but lets take it from the top here.no she should not terminate t because believe it or not everything happens for reason and she should own up to her responsibility. 2nd of course she have to tell her parents. they would still love her no matter what. now no one is saying that they wont get a upset but come on we have to be realistic here.they would. but soon after they would help her true it and be very proud loving grandparents. however if she does decide to terminate it she should still tell her mom mainly because to ensure that she goes to aa qualified doctor who knows what they are doing so that your friend doesn't get infected or hurt.the bottom line to my advice is KEEP IT THE BABY.a baby is a blessing in disguise
yes tell her mother either way. if you are getting abortion you really should have a adult with you. if you go to a ';cheep'; place or something like that you can die or never be able to have kid if this is done incorrectly. and her mother will be able to help. and the longer you wait the worse this is getting. the mother will be Mad, sad, upset at first but after a day she will just want to protech her daughter. that's her mother Instinct she wants to take all the pain away from her daughter. who care if she is Mad for a Second it will pass and she will get the best help she can.
Your friend should talk to her boyfriend to see if he wants to settle down. After all, the baby is his responsibility too. If her mother was nice enough to come down here for her 16 year old daughters boyfriend, then I'm sure she will be helpful and understand. If she has the baby, she has to remember that she has another person other than herself to take responsibility of, and the rest of her life will no longer remain the same. But if she gets an abortion, her conscience will change too. I think it's unfair to kill a baby with abortion, but it's even more unfair to bring it into the world if it's going to suffer. But in the end, she has to make the decision.
teenage pregnancy is always a hard thing - the best thing to do would always be to keep the baby. the problem there is that this could interfere with studies as she is still at school. if her parents are willing to take care of it, then that would be perfect.





The next best thing would be to give it up for adoption. this is always hard, because the mother sees her baby and has to give it away, but there are a lot of families that would be extremely happy to get a baby.





The third option is abortion. this can be very traumatic, especially afterwards - for the rest of her life the mother will remember her little baby that died.





Here is a website about what to do if you are a teenager and pregnant and how to handle it


http://www.womens-health.co.uk/teenspreg鈥?/a>
Ultimately it is up to her to make the decision, no amount of advice will change her mind if it is made up. Personally, I feel she should do what is best for her. Abortion is not the best way to handle things but if it is what she thinks is best then she should do it. She should know it is very hard on her body, mind, and soul and it is something she will have to live with forever. On the other hand there is adoption, which is also hard because you have to let go of your child forever. She can also keep her child and struggle everyday because that child is worth it.