Okay before I say anything i have to get this out in the open.
I am 15 years old. I KNOW that I am a Bisexual, I have been for two years now.
My girl friend and I have been dating for a long time now. And word has been getting around at school that we are dating, which doesnt bother me I couldnt care less. But now the school's guidance counselors won't leave me alone, they keeps trying to tell me im gender confused etc*(WHICH I KNOW I'M NOT) And on top of all that my girl friend's father now hates my guts, her mother is ok with it though. But now when i call her house if her dad awnsers he always speaks to me in a hatefull tone. PLUS one of my close friend,who is a girl, isnt aloud to talk to me over the phone, ride the bus with me(her dad is now drving her to school), or come to my house anymore because her homophobic ';Christan'; dad turely believes we going to do 'something'. And he is giving her HELL because of me. Theres NO reasoning with her dad. I dont want to lose my friend.I'm a BiSexual Teenage Girl. Can anyone give me some good advice.?
You can still see them in school so at least thats still there. I know it looks bad, but unfortunately, if you havent reached 18, and still living with your parents, almost all of your decisions in life will be in some way meddled or interfered by your parents.
Its a sad reality but oh so true. (same with my parents)
Believe me, 3 years isnt that long.
As for those counselors, tell them to mind their own business because you arent asking for their help. Counselors are there to help when ASKED FOR and not to go out making judgements about kids.I'm a BiSexual Teenage Girl. Can anyone give me some good advice.?
you will encounter people who doesn't think it's right at least not for people they want to be close to them or their kids. it's okay for others but not for their own people. either you keep it private only to yourself or you have to expect unliberal people to go against you. now you've got to stand up for your rights and show them you are a decent human being who don't deserved to be treated badly. you only have a different sexual preference. as for the father who drives daughter to school she can go out with men and not have sex with them, why so concerned about you and her.
That just sucks. Her dad is so homophobic. And that is wrong!
I know its hard and dont wanna loose your friend(s).
I think you should explain everything,why do you love her(ur gf) to her parents and the counselors.Do your parents knows that you're bisexual?
Good luck mate.Wish you luck.
Your going to have to decide weather it is more important to come out or keep your friend!
Its probably to late, to decide on the merits, of weather you should hide and keep your friend and your girlfriend, or coming out completely and getting new friends!
Since everyone knows or suspects, just get new friends!
Your counselor is just doing his/her job and Dad is just being Dad!
Find people who are as confident about who they are, as you!
Go Figure!
If school counsellors give you a hard time walk out of school to the nearest police station and report the abuse. It's criminal.
Can't do much about bigoted Dads though. Be brave. Be Out %26amp; Proud.
well, that is sad. I guess the best advice would be to wait untill you get older and more mature and then decide about these sorts of things. no matter what kind of preference you have just make sure you spend plenty of time on other things in your life as well and just do not concentrate on one thing. you can have love towards sport, art, education, trade, music, etc......these things will help you a lot in life. think you need to be a strong person first to be able to offer love. a weak person without skills will not succed in love with anybody.
Saturday, July 31, 2010
I like this boy... (yes a typical teenage question) but can someone give me some advice?
Info:
He's a grade younger---He's shorter but not that much---He noticed me but he didn't say anything but i always saw him staring at me--- I finally talked to him on myspace saying we might as well be friends (we run track together) and he's like yeah and i said hi to him in person twice--- we also have the same lunch %26amp;%26amp; is table is like 3 steps away from mine..
So here's the question: should i talk to him because i like him and we've been looking at and away from each other for months and with school almost ending i want to tell him now so i can either be rejected or accepted (regardless i probably won't seem him this summer) ... soooooo any ideas or advice or basically what would you do if you were me!!
ps. i really like him but he's younger how would that look (i know i shouldn't care what other's think)I like this boy... (yes a typical teenage question) but can someone give me some advice?
Ignore him and act like you're not interested.
Trust me. Men find this fascinating. Don't ask why. They just do.
Whatever you do do NOT let him know you are interested. That's the kiss of death.I like this boy... (yes a typical teenage question) but can someone give me some advice?
ok number one you really shouldnt care what other ppl think.. easier said than done... but when you will look back at highschool and the things that you used to worry about will seem like a frikkin joke because one year is like NOTHING.
just try to talk to him and be his friend. he is probably shy and doesnt know how to act. and even if he isnt shy just insecure the fact that he has been staring your life out for the past months is definitley a sign. at some point in a conversation just drop the question, slip it in casually so it wont be that embarrassing. good luck and dont forget to look confident even if you are a nervous reck in the inside! ;)
ahhh go for it..
at worst, you'll have all summer to forget!
at best - you'll have a fun time and a nice ego boost!!
He's a grade younger---He's shorter but not that much---He noticed me but he didn't say anything but i always saw him staring at me--- I finally talked to him on myspace saying we might as well be friends (we run track together) and he's like yeah and i said hi to him in person twice--- we also have the same lunch %26amp;%26amp; is table is like 3 steps away from mine..
So here's the question: should i talk to him because i like him and we've been looking at and away from each other for months and with school almost ending i want to tell him now so i can either be rejected or accepted (regardless i probably won't seem him this summer) ... soooooo any ideas or advice or basically what would you do if you were me!!
ps. i really like him but he's younger how would that look (i know i shouldn't care what other's think)I like this boy... (yes a typical teenage question) but can someone give me some advice?
Ignore him and act like you're not interested.
Trust me. Men find this fascinating. Don't ask why. They just do.
Whatever you do do NOT let him know you are interested. That's the kiss of death.I like this boy... (yes a typical teenage question) but can someone give me some advice?
ok number one you really shouldnt care what other ppl think.. easier said than done... but when you will look back at highschool and the things that you used to worry about will seem like a frikkin joke because one year is like NOTHING.
just try to talk to him and be his friend. he is probably shy and doesnt know how to act. and even if he isnt shy just insecure the fact that he has been staring your life out for the past months is definitley a sign. at some point in a conversation just drop the question, slip it in casually so it wont be that embarrassing. good luck and dont forget to look confident even if you are a nervous reck in the inside! ;)
ahhh go for it..
at worst, you'll have all summer to forget!
at best - you'll have a fun time and a nice ego boost!!
Why does a teenage girl with an ok life feel SO ALONE? advice is needed..?
im 15 and i have the whole world going for me, im pretty smart[not a genius] and have many good friend yet i cant be content with who iam because..
i feel so alone and have been let down by misleading guys twice. im a hopeless romantic living ina small town not many guy choices nor many good ones.
i feel alone a lot and want to cry[sounds emo, but if you knew me im not that type of person i am just confused by my emotions]
Anyone else feel like if they dont have a boyfriend they feel unwanted and unloved? i mean i am loved by guy friends,friends,family god. ect im not sucicidal as someone else tryed to state i can look at the +'s but latley i just cannot keep my head up .. any adivceWhy does a teenage girl with an ok life feel SO ALONE? advice is needed..?
Mostly what you need to do sugar is just try to focus intently on something that interests you ,,,,
You just need to learn patience is all ,,,, Occupy your mind with more constructive things to do ,,,,
Things will eventually come your way but only in their own good time not yours ,,,,
Don't be in such a hurry ,,,, That could lead to mistakes and mistakes and regret are things that could last you the rest of your life ,,,,
Things will come right for you and you'll eventually meet that Mr Right guy ,,,, Just don't fall for or settle for second best ever ,,,, That could lead to regret that could haunt you the rest of your life too ,,,,
You get a star from me for this one because it's a problem allot of girls have ,,,, You aren't alone ,,,,
Yoda said this ,,,,Why does a teenage girl with an ok life feel SO ALONE? advice is needed..?
Been there, done that. I'm 21 and haven't had a b/f. Is this a cautionary tale? Well, yes and no.
It's great to have high standards, especially if you have a lot going for you high standards is a MUST.
However, if you're shy like me, try to break out of your shell a little. This will help you realize that there are a FEW great guys out there and some of them may be checking you out, too.
Just smile! and don't be afraid to flirt a little. I wish I would have known this earlier, but I'm no longer shy, so :)
Good luck!!! And keep ya head up and your standards high. You'll find someone who (almost) deserves a great girl like you.
Oh sweetie... The world sucks when you are a teenager. What I did was found a teenage counselor and started talking about how I feel, It helped.
There are hotlines, web sites... Just try to keep your chin up and I'll pray for you!
Yeah I know sometimes I think everyone has that point in their life when they feel alone even though they have everyone there for them. I think you should take things slow with the romantic thing because you're still young so I think you should still explore and keep your options open.
I'm 15 and doing just fine single. Most guys aren't serious about relationships in high school, so I'm waiting a bit.
Try hanging out with your friends more in this time of need. Do something thanks makes you feel good-if it's shopping, playing video games or whatever. I highly advise you not to online date no matter how hard your situation is.
Hang in there! Best wishes to you. ^^
we all feel down sometimes, and yes you do sound kind of emo, but anyways it happens
anyways hope you feel better
All you have is two more years of bull feces to wade through until you can get on with the rest of your life. Why would you want to waste time with losers who don't see you for how great you are anyway? Get good grades so you can go to school in a big city, but not New York. They have a lousy girl-to-guy ratio.
just hang in there its not great advice but i get depressed as hell too and i am in my twenties. i feel alone all the time too and have never really been in a serious relationship. if your looking for a bf i would try to have maybe one of your friends try to hook you up.
Sounds like mild depression. You are also going through a very hormonal time in your life. Find a hobby. Volunteer at a hospital or old folks home. Get your mind off of YOU.
my long-lost sister
I totally get what you mean and you know what its pretty normal to feel that way.
There are ups and downs in life and lonliness is somtimes a part of it.
Try and keep yourself occupied and get other interests, it will take your mind of your lonliness and you wont have time to be lonely as you will be busy.
As for the guy part you will find someone at some point just dont be in a rush or you could get yourself into something you dont want to be in.
Hats off to you for being so mature and really wanting to find out more about your emotions.
Dont stress though just busy yourself. You will be fine. Its just a small hurdle and you should be okay!!
Take Care
Welcome to the story of my life. ha ha and I'm only 6 years older than you. If you need some one to talk to just e-mail me at askpdubs@yahoo.com I would be more than happy to listen, well read. And help you through stuff... Trust me, I just did all of this a few years ago :)
look everyone gets depressed sumtimes i mean thinngs r hard and everythin is changin but it really helps just to do somthin to get ur mind off it
you make your life happy not anyone else. Just find the one thing in life that makes you happy and maybe you will be alittle more content in your situation.
Welcome to adulthood, the world is tough, and we all feel alone sometimes. Just focus on the fact that your still alive and tomorrow can be what ever you make it. It will definately all work out, it's just tough being a teenager, especially in a small town.
I think you are attaching too much significance to your lack of a boyfriend which is fueling your feelings of depression and worthlessness. As you are only 15, you have a somewhat limited dating pool. As you get older and go away to school, I think you will find more opportunities to meet people which will increase your odds of finding a suitable candidate to be your boyfriend.
By the way, I don't find your description of yourself to qualify you as a hopeless romantic, but rather you are a hopefull romantic. Your mission is to increase your chances of meeting people...so take the advice of many of the others posting answers to your question and get involved in activities that boys would also be interested in.
dont worry..i feel the same way. im 15 also and when i see other girls with their boyfriends,i feel somewhat jealous. i hate to admit it. i say to myself ';why cant i fall in love?'; or ';why cant i find a guy who will love me?';. its not emo in any way, a lot of people think this way. i think its too soon to find a true love, so dont give up hope. you dont have to be loved, to love yourself and who you are. you sound like a great girl, so the right person will come around. its just a matter of time.
We have our good and bad days and sometime we focus on the negatives. Don't let this get the best of you.
You have a long way to go just do good in school and hangout with friends for now. Don't stress about having a bf because when they break up with you'll be stress even more.
Not to sound like your mom or anything, but at 15 you should'nt be worried about your love life. Dont get me wrong it's okay to date (depending on your parents), but worrying about feeling unloved should be the last thing on your mind. You have plenty of heartache ahead of you...trust me. I'm sure you are a beautiful girl and you should first put this much time, energy and love within yourself.
If your 15, your emotions are just going to be like that for the next few years. Try doing cardio 30 min. 3-5 times a week. I love running early in the morning. This will use up some of the hormones that are bothering you. Also get pleanty of sleep and eat right. Chin up girl, this will only last a little while, and almost every one else goes through the exact same thing.
It's pretty typical to have these feelings at your age. It can be lonely when it seems like all of your friends have found someone while you are still alone. The trick is not to settle for someone in an attempt to avoid feeling lonely. If you settle for someone who is below your standards just to avoid feeling lonely, you will regret it later. It actually sounds like you have a very full life and are wanted and loved by many people. Try to focus on all the good things you have going for you. If you find yourself feeling lonely or bored, think about becoming a volunteer for a local social service agency. Being a volunteer is a very rewarding experience and it also looks great on a college application. It should help you feel better about yourself too. As for the slim pickings of quality guys in your small town, perhaps you should consider going away for college. You don't have that much longer to wait, and college is a wonderful time to meet new people and discover new places.
i feel so alone and have been let down by misleading guys twice. im a hopeless romantic living ina small town not many guy choices nor many good ones.
i feel alone a lot and want to cry[sounds emo, but if you knew me im not that type of person i am just confused by my emotions]
Anyone else feel like if they dont have a boyfriend they feel unwanted and unloved? i mean i am loved by guy friends,friends,family god. ect im not sucicidal as someone else tryed to state i can look at the +'s but latley i just cannot keep my head up .. any adivceWhy does a teenage girl with an ok life feel SO ALONE? advice is needed..?
Mostly what you need to do sugar is just try to focus intently on something that interests you ,,,,
You just need to learn patience is all ,,,, Occupy your mind with more constructive things to do ,,,,
Things will eventually come your way but only in their own good time not yours ,,,,
Don't be in such a hurry ,,,, That could lead to mistakes and mistakes and regret are things that could last you the rest of your life ,,,,
Things will come right for you and you'll eventually meet that Mr Right guy ,,,, Just don't fall for or settle for second best ever ,,,, That could lead to regret that could haunt you the rest of your life too ,,,,
You get a star from me for this one because it's a problem allot of girls have ,,,, You aren't alone ,,,,
Yoda said this ,,,,Why does a teenage girl with an ok life feel SO ALONE? advice is needed..?
Been there, done that. I'm 21 and haven't had a b/f. Is this a cautionary tale? Well, yes and no.
It's great to have high standards, especially if you have a lot going for you high standards is a MUST.
However, if you're shy like me, try to break out of your shell a little. This will help you realize that there are a FEW great guys out there and some of them may be checking you out, too.
Just smile! and don't be afraid to flirt a little. I wish I would have known this earlier, but I'm no longer shy, so :)
Good luck!!! And keep ya head up and your standards high. You'll find someone who (almost) deserves a great girl like you.
Oh sweetie... The world sucks when you are a teenager. What I did was found a teenage counselor and started talking about how I feel, It helped.
There are hotlines, web sites... Just try to keep your chin up and I'll pray for you!
Yeah I know sometimes I think everyone has that point in their life when they feel alone even though they have everyone there for them. I think you should take things slow with the romantic thing because you're still young so I think you should still explore and keep your options open.
I'm 15 and doing just fine single. Most guys aren't serious about relationships in high school, so I'm waiting a bit.
Try hanging out with your friends more in this time of need. Do something thanks makes you feel good-if it's shopping, playing video games or whatever. I highly advise you not to online date no matter how hard your situation is.
Hang in there! Best wishes to you. ^^
we all feel down sometimes, and yes you do sound kind of emo, but anyways it happens
anyways hope you feel better
All you have is two more years of bull feces to wade through until you can get on with the rest of your life. Why would you want to waste time with losers who don't see you for how great you are anyway? Get good grades so you can go to school in a big city, but not New York. They have a lousy girl-to-guy ratio.
just hang in there its not great advice but i get depressed as hell too and i am in my twenties. i feel alone all the time too and have never really been in a serious relationship. if your looking for a bf i would try to have maybe one of your friends try to hook you up.
Sounds like mild depression. You are also going through a very hormonal time in your life. Find a hobby. Volunteer at a hospital or old folks home. Get your mind off of YOU.
my long-lost sister
I totally get what you mean and you know what its pretty normal to feel that way.
There are ups and downs in life and lonliness is somtimes a part of it.
Try and keep yourself occupied and get other interests, it will take your mind of your lonliness and you wont have time to be lonely as you will be busy.
As for the guy part you will find someone at some point just dont be in a rush or you could get yourself into something you dont want to be in.
Hats off to you for being so mature and really wanting to find out more about your emotions.
Dont stress though just busy yourself. You will be fine. Its just a small hurdle and you should be okay!!
Take Care
Welcome to the story of my life. ha ha and I'm only 6 years older than you. If you need some one to talk to just e-mail me at askpdubs@yahoo.com I would be more than happy to listen, well read. And help you through stuff... Trust me, I just did all of this a few years ago :)
look everyone gets depressed sumtimes i mean thinngs r hard and everythin is changin but it really helps just to do somthin to get ur mind off it
you make your life happy not anyone else. Just find the one thing in life that makes you happy and maybe you will be alittle more content in your situation.
Welcome to adulthood, the world is tough, and we all feel alone sometimes. Just focus on the fact that your still alive and tomorrow can be what ever you make it. It will definately all work out, it's just tough being a teenager, especially in a small town.
I think you are attaching too much significance to your lack of a boyfriend which is fueling your feelings of depression and worthlessness. As you are only 15, you have a somewhat limited dating pool. As you get older and go away to school, I think you will find more opportunities to meet people which will increase your odds of finding a suitable candidate to be your boyfriend.
By the way, I don't find your description of yourself to qualify you as a hopeless romantic, but rather you are a hopefull romantic. Your mission is to increase your chances of meeting people...so take the advice of many of the others posting answers to your question and get involved in activities that boys would also be interested in.
dont worry..i feel the same way. im 15 also and when i see other girls with their boyfriends,i feel somewhat jealous. i hate to admit it. i say to myself ';why cant i fall in love?'; or ';why cant i find a guy who will love me?';. its not emo in any way, a lot of people think this way. i think its too soon to find a true love, so dont give up hope. you dont have to be loved, to love yourself and who you are. you sound like a great girl, so the right person will come around. its just a matter of time.
We have our good and bad days and sometime we focus on the negatives. Don't let this get the best of you.
You have a long way to go just do good in school and hangout with friends for now. Don't stress about having a bf because when they break up with you'll be stress even more.
Not to sound like your mom or anything, but at 15 you should'nt be worried about your love life. Dont get me wrong it's okay to date (depending on your parents), but worrying about feeling unloved should be the last thing on your mind. You have plenty of heartache ahead of you...trust me. I'm sure you are a beautiful girl and you should first put this much time, energy and love within yourself.
If your 15, your emotions are just going to be like that for the next few years. Try doing cardio 30 min. 3-5 times a week. I love running early in the morning. This will use up some of the hormones that are bothering you. Also get pleanty of sleep and eat right. Chin up girl, this will only last a little while, and almost every one else goes through the exact same thing.
It's pretty typical to have these feelings at your age. It can be lonely when it seems like all of your friends have found someone while you are still alone. The trick is not to settle for someone in an attempt to avoid feeling lonely. If you settle for someone who is below your standards just to avoid feeling lonely, you will regret it later. It actually sounds like you have a very full life and are wanted and loved by many people. Try to focus on all the good things you have going for you. If you find yourself feeling lonely or bored, think about becoming a volunteer for a local social service agency. Being a volunteer is a very rewarding experience and it also looks great on a college application. It should help you feel better about yourself too. As for the slim pickings of quality guys in your small town, perhaps you should consider going away for college. You don't have that much longer to wait, and college is a wonderful time to meet new people and discover new places.
I recently found out that my teenage son is sexually active and I'm very upset. Any advice.?
My son is 17, will be 18 in November. I recently found out he and his girlfriend of about a year are sexually active (I found condoms in his room and when I confronted him about them, he told me everything).
While I am not naive, I am very old fashioned and I have tried to teach my children that sex is something that should be saved for marriage. What scared me most is when I tried to explain this to him again, just to reiterate, he acted as if I was crazy for beleiving such things! After 17 years of trying to teach him!!
I am just so worried that he and his girlfriend are not emotionally ready for sex, let alone what would ever happen if God forbid she got pregnant. I am also concerned about what effect this information will have on my 3 younger children (all girls ages 15, 13 and 9).
Any advice from parents who have had to deal with similar situacions is welcomed.
Thanks from a very concerned and heart-broken mother...I recently found out that my teenage son is sexually active and I'm very upset. Any advice.?
Well sounds like you’ve already done all the standard tactics that had absolutely zero impact on your son. (yell, threaten, scold, panic, get vapors, interrogate,,, etc..)
#1 “While I am not naïve..” Yes you are. You expect your children to be completely obedient to each and every one of your decisions about life. That may work when they are young, but by the time they reach 16-17 they are making their own decisions, judgments, etc. in life. At what point will it be ok with you for him to make his own decisions in life,, 25-28-30 ??
#2 Stop with all the “After 17 years of trying to teach him!!” “heart-broken mother” stuff. This isn’t about you or your failure to teach him. I have no doubt he has already learned much more from you are giving him credit for. Ok, so he is sexually active,, it is a core part of human nature, some humans wait longer to become sexually active and some don’t. There is still 17 years of teaching him about life he has.
#3 His siblings have absolutely NO NEED-REASON-OR RIGHT to know anything about their older brother’s sex life. If he chooses to talk to them that is his prerogative. It is NOT YOUR RIGHT-DUTY-PREOGATIVE to tell them !!!!!!!!!!!!!
#4 Well here you may be right, he may not be emotionally ready, but he IS BIOLOGICALLY Ready. There is NOT ONE THING you can do about that!!
Time to face facts here.
Your son is 3 months from legally being an adult, NOTHING you say-do can change that fact. You have either done a good job of teaching him in his first 17 years of life or not. I suspect he is much more than you give him credit for. At this stage in both your lives your ability to force your will on him regardless of his wishes is about over. He will make his own decisions, judgments, etc. in life. He may ask your advice (or not) but your ability to “order him” is over.
There are many things you should be thankful for, and you’re completely missing them.
#1 He is TRUTHFUL !! He could have very easily lied to you !!
#2 He is SMART !! He could have been having unprotected sex. But he did a very adult thing by getting and using condoms. He is physically protecting both himself and his G/F.
#3 He does Trust YOU! He could have very easily NOT told you everything, nothing at all, or made up some story about the condoms!!
#4 He does have a good VALUE system. Regardless if You think so or not. Again, he could have not used condoms, not caring if he got his G/F pregnant or not.
Your value system in life is yours. That doesn’t mean your children should or will have the same value system in life. They will think differently than you on many subjects or the same as you. Either way, when they reach adulthood learn to respect their thinking and judgments in life.
You can either accept your son’s thinking-decisions-judgments, continue to be his mother, offering advice when asked, trusting you did teach him the important issues in life in his first 17 years of life. Or, you can continue in this vane,, and ruin everything between you and your son. This goes for your other children as they mature also.
Most people would be thrilled if their 17/18-year-old children shared things like having sex with them. Many many Parents’ have absolutely no idea of what their 17/18-year old kids are doing, whether it is about sex, or any other activities they engage in.
The choice is yours, You can accept and support (doesn’t mean agree) with your Son’s choices, decision, etc.. or you can continue on as you are,,,,, And completely destroy what you and he has worked on for the last 17 years.I recently found out that my teenage son is sexually active and I'm very upset. Any advice.?
To preface this, I will mention that I am 22 years old and not a parent, but I will approach this as I would have liked my parents to approach this situation if it had happened to me.
Though you are obviously a caring mother, you must realize your son is now a young adult who can make his own life choices. You tried your best to teach him your beliefs, but obviously he doesn't agree, and he's entitled to his own beliefs and opinions.
I would suggest being open with him. Reassure him that you love him, and though you do not agree with his choice to have sex before marriage, tell him that you would still be willing to talk to him about anything he may have questions about - sex, love, relationships, etc. You must establish open communication lines between the two of you, it will only strengthen your relationship if he feels like he can share with you and talk to you about his personal life. Though he is young, he seems to be more mature than you're giving him credit for. He's obviously smart, using condoms. Encourage him to talk with his girlfriend about getting on birth control. My boyfriend's mother told me she would be willing to bring me to her own doctor to get on birth control when she found out we were having sex (my mother is quite traditional also).
As for your daughters, do the same. Satisfy their curious minds, but reaffirm that sex is meant for a loving, stable relationship. At 15 and 13, they are most already experiencing sexual pressure. Kids are experimenting younger and younger these days and the only way to prevent it is to be open with them so they don't go looking for answers from friends and peers, which is normally quite inaccurate.
I hope this helps.
My son is 17 and has been having sex with his girl for a year -- they have been dating for 2 and 1/2 years. I talked to him about babies, told him I wasn't ready to be a grandmother, we talked about how it could ruin both of their lives ...etc. I also told him that if he was embarrassed to buy condoms I would do it for him. Well they are using condoms and she is also on the pill I found out. I just don't know what to say. It sounds flip to say ';well gee, it's what they do now-a-days.'; And unfortunately it is. Like you we were very opened with out sons about sex, the dangers of STD's, and pregnancy, and AIDS. That's all we can do and just hope for the best, and that they make the right choices. All you can do at this point is love him and hope all goes well. They grow up too quickly now and I don't think there's anything we can do about it.
okay, im not a parent.. i a tee of the age of 16...17 in February next year...
the way i see it as, if they didn't feel ready to have sex then they wouldn't have. It sounds as if yu son has had a very good upbringing and wouldn't be type to force the girl into anythng so it was obviously a neutral decision. personally im keeping my virginty as long s possible cos iknow people who've hd sex nd it isn't even that good!!!... as for the woe pregnancy pat of the situation.. yah that woue terrible and m sure they're being very very careful.. im suretey're both terrified of tha happening too!!!
I am also a mother of a 17 year old son who will be 18 in January.
My son is sexually active and has been for a while now.
This is not what you want to hear, but I'm going to tell you anyway, and know that I mean only the best for you when I tell you this and that I'm speaking from experience:
1. Be thankful you found condoms. This shows he is acting responsibly.
2. Your ';old fashioned'; ideas that ';sex should be saved for marriage'; are YOUR beliefs, not necessarily those of your son.
3. Just because a person has sex does not necessarily mean that they will choose to be with their partner forever.
4. Just because a person has sex does not necessarily mean a baby will result.
5. Your children are individuals. What happens with your son is not necessarily what will happen with your daughters. Your son's decisions will not necessarily influence your daughters. Who says they have to know anyway?
Now...
You have done your part to teach him what he needs to know to live a successful life.
This is not a reflection on you or your parenting skills or your family lifestyle.
Once you guide your children you have to know when to step back and let them begin to make their own choices. Some of those choices will be good ones, some not so good. But you have to let your son begin to make his own decisions. He is nearly an adult and you have to begin to treat him as such. He deserves that type of respect and trust from you.
It's natural for teens to be curious. He is exploring. Let him be. But let him know you are still there for him if he needs you.
I also have a son who is 17 and funnily enough turning 18 in Nov. I understand the worries and concerns of being a mother to a teenaged boy. I agree with you when you say they aren't emotionally ready for sex at this age but unfortunately I think biologically they are ready for sex at this age. Not too long ago, people were married in their early teens and started families. But now kids are taking longer and longer to get married so it seems unrealistic that kids will stay virgins until they get married in their late 20s or even early 30s. Although I grew up catholic, I have never expected my son to wait until marriage because I think that is unrealistic nowadays. I think it is more important to ensure they are practicing safe sex and making wise decisions so as not to get pregnant or get diseases. It sounds like he told you everything so you must have a good open relationship. You need to explain to him that now that he has taken this next step and started to have sex, it is his responsibility to take care of his health and ensure that he does not get anyone pregnant. You also need to explain that his sisters are too young and influencable to be privy to his sexlife and that you expect him to keep this aspect of his life private from them. I'm not sure if this is helpful or not, but you can't go back in time - he's had sex now so you might as well encourage him to make responsible decisions.
Well you knew this was coming. Today kids around 16-17 they start having sex. Not in the olden times, where people would wait till marriage. Thats just how it is today.acne
While I am not naive, I am very old fashioned and I have tried to teach my children that sex is something that should be saved for marriage. What scared me most is when I tried to explain this to him again, just to reiterate, he acted as if I was crazy for beleiving such things! After 17 years of trying to teach him!!
I am just so worried that he and his girlfriend are not emotionally ready for sex, let alone what would ever happen if God forbid she got pregnant. I am also concerned about what effect this information will have on my 3 younger children (all girls ages 15, 13 and 9).
Any advice from parents who have had to deal with similar situacions is welcomed.
Thanks from a very concerned and heart-broken mother...I recently found out that my teenage son is sexually active and I'm very upset. Any advice.?
Well sounds like you’ve already done all the standard tactics that had absolutely zero impact on your son. (yell, threaten, scold, panic, get vapors, interrogate,,, etc..)
#1 “While I am not naïve..” Yes you are. You expect your children to be completely obedient to each and every one of your decisions about life. That may work when they are young, but by the time they reach 16-17 they are making their own decisions, judgments, etc. in life. At what point will it be ok with you for him to make his own decisions in life,, 25-28-30 ??
#2 Stop with all the “After 17 years of trying to teach him!!” “heart-broken mother” stuff. This isn’t about you or your failure to teach him. I have no doubt he has already learned much more from you are giving him credit for. Ok, so he is sexually active,, it is a core part of human nature, some humans wait longer to become sexually active and some don’t. There is still 17 years of teaching him about life he has.
#3 His siblings have absolutely NO NEED-REASON-OR RIGHT to know anything about their older brother’s sex life. If he chooses to talk to them that is his prerogative. It is NOT YOUR RIGHT-DUTY-PREOGATIVE to tell them !!!!!!!!!!!!!
#4 Well here you may be right, he may not be emotionally ready, but he IS BIOLOGICALLY Ready. There is NOT ONE THING you can do about that!!
Time to face facts here.
Your son is 3 months from legally being an adult, NOTHING you say-do can change that fact. You have either done a good job of teaching him in his first 17 years of life or not. I suspect he is much more than you give him credit for. At this stage in both your lives your ability to force your will on him regardless of his wishes is about over. He will make his own decisions, judgments, etc. in life. He may ask your advice (or not) but your ability to “order him” is over.
There are many things you should be thankful for, and you’re completely missing them.
#1 He is TRUTHFUL !! He could have very easily lied to you !!
#2 He is SMART !! He could have been having unprotected sex. But he did a very adult thing by getting and using condoms. He is physically protecting both himself and his G/F.
#3 He does Trust YOU! He could have very easily NOT told you everything, nothing at all, or made up some story about the condoms!!
#4 He does have a good VALUE system. Regardless if You think so or not. Again, he could have not used condoms, not caring if he got his G/F pregnant or not.
Your value system in life is yours. That doesn’t mean your children should or will have the same value system in life. They will think differently than you on many subjects or the same as you. Either way, when they reach adulthood learn to respect their thinking and judgments in life.
You can either accept your son’s thinking-decisions-judgments, continue to be his mother, offering advice when asked, trusting you did teach him the important issues in life in his first 17 years of life. Or, you can continue in this vane,, and ruin everything between you and your son. This goes for your other children as they mature also.
Most people would be thrilled if their 17/18-year-old children shared things like having sex with them. Many many Parents’ have absolutely no idea of what their 17/18-year old kids are doing, whether it is about sex, or any other activities they engage in.
The choice is yours, You can accept and support (doesn’t mean agree) with your Son’s choices, decision, etc.. or you can continue on as you are,,,,, And completely destroy what you and he has worked on for the last 17 years.I recently found out that my teenage son is sexually active and I'm very upset. Any advice.?
To preface this, I will mention that I am 22 years old and not a parent, but I will approach this as I would have liked my parents to approach this situation if it had happened to me.
Though you are obviously a caring mother, you must realize your son is now a young adult who can make his own life choices. You tried your best to teach him your beliefs, but obviously he doesn't agree, and he's entitled to his own beliefs and opinions.
I would suggest being open with him. Reassure him that you love him, and though you do not agree with his choice to have sex before marriage, tell him that you would still be willing to talk to him about anything he may have questions about - sex, love, relationships, etc. You must establish open communication lines between the two of you, it will only strengthen your relationship if he feels like he can share with you and talk to you about his personal life. Though he is young, he seems to be more mature than you're giving him credit for. He's obviously smart, using condoms. Encourage him to talk with his girlfriend about getting on birth control. My boyfriend's mother told me she would be willing to bring me to her own doctor to get on birth control when she found out we were having sex (my mother is quite traditional also).
As for your daughters, do the same. Satisfy their curious minds, but reaffirm that sex is meant for a loving, stable relationship. At 15 and 13, they are most already experiencing sexual pressure. Kids are experimenting younger and younger these days and the only way to prevent it is to be open with them so they don't go looking for answers from friends and peers, which is normally quite inaccurate.
I hope this helps.
My son is 17 and has been having sex with his girl for a year -- they have been dating for 2 and 1/2 years. I talked to him about babies, told him I wasn't ready to be a grandmother, we talked about how it could ruin both of their lives ...etc. I also told him that if he was embarrassed to buy condoms I would do it for him. Well they are using condoms and she is also on the pill I found out. I just don't know what to say. It sounds flip to say ';well gee, it's what they do now-a-days.'; And unfortunately it is. Like you we were very opened with out sons about sex, the dangers of STD's, and pregnancy, and AIDS. That's all we can do and just hope for the best, and that they make the right choices. All you can do at this point is love him and hope all goes well. They grow up too quickly now and I don't think there's anything we can do about it.
okay, im not a parent.. i a tee of the age of 16...17 in February next year...
the way i see it as, if they didn't feel ready to have sex then they wouldn't have. It sounds as if yu son has had a very good upbringing and wouldn't be type to force the girl into anythng so it was obviously a neutral decision. personally im keeping my virginty as long s possible cos iknow people who've hd sex nd it isn't even that good!!!... as for the woe pregnancy pat of the situation.. yah that woue terrible and m sure they're being very very careful.. im suretey're both terrified of tha happening too!!!
I am also a mother of a 17 year old son who will be 18 in January.
My son is sexually active and has been for a while now.
This is not what you want to hear, but I'm going to tell you anyway, and know that I mean only the best for you when I tell you this and that I'm speaking from experience:
1. Be thankful you found condoms. This shows he is acting responsibly.
2. Your ';old fashioned'; ideas that ';sex should be saved for marriage'; are YOUR beliefs, not necessarily those of your son.
3. Just because a person has sex does not necessarily mean that they will choose to be with their partner forever.
4. Just because a person has sex does not necessarily mean a baby will result.
5. Your children are individuals. What happens with your son is not necessarily what will happen with your daughters. Your son's decisions will not necessarily influence your daughters. Who says they have to know anyway?
Now...
You have done your part to teach him what he needs to know to live a successful life.
This is not a reflection on you or your parenting skills or your family lifestyle.
Once you guide your children you have to know when to step back and let them begin to make their own choices. Some of those choices will be good ones, some not so good. But you have to let your son begin to make his own decisions. He is nearly an adult and you have to begin to treat him as such. He deserves that type of respect and trust from you.
It's natural for teens to be curious. He is exploring. Let him be. But let him know you are still there for him if he needs you.
I also have a son who is 17 and funnily enough turning 18 in Nov. I understand the worries and concerns of being a mother to a teenaged boy. I agree with you when you say they aren't emotionally ready for sex at this age but unfortunately I think biologically they are ready for sex at this age. Not too long ago, people were married in their early teens and started families. But now kids are taking longer and longer to get married so it seems unrealistic that kids will stay virgins until they get married in their late 20s or even early 30s. Although I grew up catholic, I have never expected my son to wait until marriage because I think that is unrealistic nowadays. I think it is more important to ensure they are practicing safe sex and making wise decisions so as not to get pregnant or get diseases. It sounds like he told you everything so you must have a good open relationship. You need to explain to him that now that he has taken this next step and started to have sex, it is his responsibility to take care of his health and ensure that he does not get anyone pregnant. You also need to explain that his sisters are too young and influencable to be privy to his sexlife and that you expect him to keep this aspect of his life private from them. I'm not sure if this is helpful or not, but you can't go back in time - he's had sex now so you might as well encourage him to make responsible decisions.
Well you knew this was coming. Today kids around 16-17 they start having sex. Not in the olden times, where people would wait till marriage. Thats just how it is today.
Can the teenage girls help me out i need some advice?
Hello im alex im 15 and guy and there is this girl that i really like and she likes me. She keeps having her friend telling me that she wants to get with me (phone broke) and i really want too. BUT i just got my wisdom teeth out today and i get stitches out monday (A WHOLE WEEK =[ ) now my question is if your were in this girls position would you wait a week for whoever you were gonna get with, to get with them? or would you go get with some else and forget him. its KILLING ME inside hahah. no bullsh*it answers so tell the truth please thanks.Can the teenage girls help me out i need some advice?
Eh..duh..if she wants you, she wants you. She's not gonna be like ''ewh i dont want you now'' just because she can't have you for 7 daysCan the teenage girls help me out i need some advice?
she'll wait if shes rly into u
Eh..duh..if she wants you, she wants you. She's not gonna be like ''ewh i dont want you now'' just because she can't have you for 7 daysCan the teenage girls help me out i need some advice?
she'll wait if shes rly into u
Ugh.... teenage life sucks like hard core i need advice?
ok so one of my friends used 2 date this guy then he broke her heart but she still likes him and shes been fighting 4 him but he just dont seem 2 like her and last nite he followed me into my room and started rubbing my brests and touching and playing with my ';cookie'; wat do i do. can i have sex with him and she still b my friend or is that tottaly wrong... i mean i really dont wont 2 treat he like that but i liked him first then she dated him so please help....Ugh.... teenage life sucks like hard core i need advice?
I can guarantee if you hook up with him it'll ruin your friendship.
He's also probably just going to use you.
But if you don't care about the friendship and are just looking to hookup with the guy go for it.
If your looking for a relationship with him or you want to keep your friends and not be called a **** do not i repeat DO NOT hook up with this kid.Ugh.... teenage life sucks like hard core i need advice?
First, you don't need to have sex. Sex causes too many problems. And second, no you shouldn't. She might be a life long friend, or one for the season, either way, in the end it isn't worth it. And he is out of order. If he would do that to her, you will be the next victim. The games are the same through highschool, college, and adulthood. It's all in how you play your hand.
i totally agree with jenbunny.. seriosuly, you shoudl consider what you want more. friends will be there, but the guy could leave right after you have sex with him. leaving you without the friend and without him.
I can guarantee if you hook up with him it'll ruin your friendship.
He's also probably just going to use you.
But if you don't care about the friendship and are just looking to hookup with the guy go for it.
If your looking for a relationship with him or you want to keep your friends and not be called a **** do not i repeat DO NOT hook up with this kid.Ugh.... teenage life sucks like hard core i need advice?
First, you don't need to have sex. Sex causes too many problems. And second, no you shouldn't. She might be a life long friend, or one for the season, either way, in the end it isn't worth it. And he is out of order. If he would do that to her, you will be the next victim. The games are the same through highschool, college, and adulthood. It's all in how you play your hand.
i totally agree with jenbunny.. seriosuly, you shoudl consider what you want more. friends will be there, but the guy could leave right after you have sex with him. leaving you without the friend and without him.
I want a way I can help teenage girls and guys online. Im very good at giving the right advice. Got any sites?
This one.I want a way I can help teenage girls and guys online. Im very good at giving the right advice. Got any sites?
This is a joke right? What more perfect site is there for what you just described?
This is a joke right? What more perfect site is there for what you just described?
I need some objective advice about how to deal with my teenage son who has become, well, like a teenage boy...
My son recently turned 13 and almost immediately started changing - a LOT. We've always had a good and open relationship, he is a smart kid and was respectful, responsible, considerate.
Now, he's discovered the social aspect of life, and all he thinks about is talking to his friends. He has a big lack of respect to me and his teachers - very sarcastic and rude, to a point of almost not caring whether he gets in trouble. He is lazy with school and house work. He seems to have no drive whatsoever unless it involves his friends.
I am a single mom but have always laid down the law pretty firmly in his life. He is in no way ';getting away with'; this behavior, but I'm frustrated because punishment does not seem to help. I also can't get him to communicate with me. He just responds ';I don't know'; or make such unreasonable arguments I don't even know how to respond.
I know it's a hard stage and he'll get through it but any ideas on how to deal with it in the meantime are appreciated!I need some objective advice about how to deal with my teenage son who has become, well, like a teenage boy...
Don't argue with him, right now he's smarter than you are and is learning how to manipulate you. Remember when he was 2? Its the same stuff in a bigger body. If the punishment you are doing isn't working, change it. Tell him up front that every time he misbehaves, he loses an opportunity to be with his friends. Don't be punative and don't embarress him in front of his friends, but if he smarts off to the teacher, he doesn't get to do whatever the next social thing is. Talk about respect in terms that aren't emotional. You don't talk back to authority because the consequences are unpleasant, you get fired or you get thrown in jail or you don't go to the movies with your friends.
Don't make threats you can't keep. Be consistant and be nurturing. Make your home the ';haven';, and invite his friends over every time you can. Your son has a million things going on in his head, and if you remember right, so did you at that age.
Hold on, demand the best from him, be consistant in your response to bad behavior and have a sense of humor about your little man. If there is a trusted older man, a grandfather or uncle, or even his own father, make sure they teach him what it is to be a man. If you don't have a positive role model for him in your life(not a b/f unless he's focused on your son's best interest), then get him involved with a sports team, scouts or Big Brother/Big Sister. Boys usually turn around by the time they are 18, some not until alittle later. You'll get your child back eventually, just be patient.I need some objective advice about how to deal with my teenage son who has become, well, like a teenage boy...
Aren't teenagers fun. Try grounding and don't give in to him Take his cell phone away from him if he doesn't straighten up. Or his stereo or TV or what ever. Make him earn them back. You are in for a hard time. Just bear with it.
I know allot of times I just wanted to strangle my son but we made it through and he turned out OK.
Just set down the rules and stick to them.
stop his friends from coming over or calling the house until he get his mind right.
Tell his friends he can't come out and play until you say so. And then send his friends on their way.
welcome to puberty! ain't it a B, we went through the same thing with six of them, girls are worse, be thankful you have a boy! not to worry it only gets worse before it gets better, that is usually after boot camp or prison. good luck!!!!!!
Could it be that you've been too strict with him and have overloaded him with rules? As a child, he doesn't have much chance to fight back, but as a teenager, this might cause his behaviour. Maybe you should be more laid back and give him a break.
you may need a male figure for him to talk to an uncle or the pastor of the church maybe one of those things will help
Now, he's discovered the social aspect of life, and all he thinks about is talking to his friends. He has a big lack of respect to me and his teachers - very sarcastic and rude, to a point of almost not caring whether he gets in trouble. He is lazy with school and house work. He seems to have no drive whatsoever unless it involves his friends.
I am a single mom but have always laid down the law pretty firmly in his life. He is in no way ';getting away with'; this behavior, but I'm frustrated because punishment does not seem to help. I also can't get him to communicate with me. He just responds ';I don't know'; or make such unreasonable arguments I don't even know how to respond.
I know it's a hard stage and he'll get through it but any ideas on how to deal with it in the meantime are appreciated!I need some objective advice about how to deal with my teenage son who has become, well, like a teenage boy...
Don't argue with him, right now he's smarter than you are and is learning how to manipulate you. Remember when he was 2? Its the same stuff in a bigger body. If the punishment you are doing isn't working, change it. Tell him up front that every time he misbehaves, he loses an opportunity to be with his friends. Don't be punative and don't embarress him in front of his friends, but if he smarts off to the teacher, he doesn't get to do whatever the next social thing is. Talk about respect in terms that aren't emotional. You don't talk back to authority because the consequences are unpleasant, you get fired or you get thrown in jail or you don't go to the movies with your friends.
Don't make threats you can't keep. Be consistant and be nurturing. Make your home the ';haven';, and invite his friends over every time you can. Your son has a million things going on in his head, and if you remember right, so did you at that age.
Hold on, demand the best from him, be consistant in your response to bad behavior and have a sense of humor about your little man. If there is a trusted older man, a grandfather or uncle, or even his own father, make sure they teach him what it is to be a man. If you don't have a positive role model for him in your life(not a b/f unless he's focused on your son's best interest), then get him involved with a sports team, scouts or Big Brother/Big Sister. Boys usually turn around by the time they are 18, some not until alittle later. You'll get your child back eventually, just be patient.I need some objective advice about how to deal with my teenage son who has become, well, like a teenage boy...
Aren't teenagers fun. Try grounding and don't give in to him Take his cell phone away from him if he doesn't straighten up. Or his stereo or TV or what ever. Make him earn them back. You are in for a hard time. Just bear with it.
I know allot of times I just wanted to strangle my son but we made it through and he turned out OK.
Just set down the rules and stick to them.
stop his friends from coming over or calling the house until he get his mind right.
Tell his friends he can't come out and play until you say so. And then send his friends on their way.
welcome to puberty! ain't it a B, we went through the same thing with six of them, girls are worse, be thankful you have a boy! not to worry it only gets worse before it gets better, that is usually after boot camp or prison. good luck!!!!!!
Could it be that you've been too strict with him and have overloaded him with rules? As a child, he doesn't have much chance to fight back, but as a teenager, this might cause his behaviour. Maybe you should be more laid back and give him a break.
you may need a male figure for him to talk to an uncle or the pastor of the church maybe one of those things will help
TEENAGE serious problem, HELP!!! i need advice!?
I have a b.f he was my causins ex. not realizing how she would react after she found out that i was w/ him i excepted him a week later she finds out n writes a message on myspace saying ';i was her good causin n he was her ex.'; she sounded sad disapointed and mad idk if its my fault because she dumped him (like 6 months ago) for this other guy who is her b.f right now i feel really bad like i backstabbed her i aready appalogized to her i havent gotten her responce yet wat do i do?????? Did i do wrong??????...HELPTEENAGE serious problem, HELP!!! i need advice!?
No i don't think that you did wrong. As long as you and your boy friend weren't seeing eachother before him and your cousin broke up I see no harm in that. You say that you apologized to your cousin, I would like you to email me and ill get in more depth with you on what you should do. I would also like to know what kind of apology you said to her like just I'm sorry, or will you forgive me? Here is my email address. You can contact me anytime you would like and I'll give you a very good website to go and help you apologize maybe a little bit better.
My email is:
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Alex,
Age 15TEENAGE serious problem, HELP!!! i need advice!?
If she left him that is her loss not yours if this person makes you happy then go for it dont put ur feelings aside for hers she wouldn't do it for you ...If it really came down to it....but she will get over it in time her feelings are kind of hurt right now..so jus let her kool off n let her contact u you made ur move n done ur part by apologizing so it's up to her hunny ..
People say blood is thicker than water but i say love is thicker than blood...so give that man all ur lovin's hey cuz if she don't want to talk to u n e more that's more love u can give to someone who will love you back good luck Hunny...dont let it get u down!!!
U should never get involved with an ex of ur friends or family. If u already apologized just wait till she cools off because shes probably still mad.
well, it depends if his worth staying with,like if your cousins upset, you shouldnt worry about it because its her fault, not yours, because she left him, because she didnt like him, and its not your fault because you fell for him, and its something that happens. but the question is, did u know that thye were going out, and then u relize theyre not, and then u went and scooped in. well if u did that, then, i would think thats a problem, but if u didnt know, its sumthing u shouldnt worry about. i hope this helped. good luck wit your coz.
ya you're wrong on many counts. you don't go out with ex's of relatives. learn how to spell too and stop worrying about boys.
This IS NOT A SERIOUS PROBLEM!!! Wake up and learn to tell the difference!
the only thing u can do is try to talk to her
and ask if she's ok
or u'll dump him if she's not
no it jus the rules u kno no matter how over ur ex u are u jus wouldnt like seein him wit someone else.....if u think hes worth it than forget abo ur couzin...but if hes just a nother guy which is 99% of the time...go play wit someone else...cuz its chicks over ***** remeber that!
Sorry kid.
The only serious problem that you have is your spelling, grammar, and punctuation.
Other than that you're doing just fine.
Yes you did something wrong, and you think its wrong too, if not you wouldn't apologize. there's nothing you can do to nake her feel better except assuring her that you would never intentionally do something like that just to hurt her. My solution, explain to her how much you fell for him (you bf her ex), how it was somewhat uncontrollabe, just how she fell for him when they met. After that, that's all you can do, it's now her choice to forgive and forget.
#1 rule never date a guy your friend or family has dated
Yeah it wasn't the best thing to do. Someone who once dated anyone close to you is OFF LIMITS. Unless the friend or relative of yours is understanding and okay with it, or if you don't care about them and want to possibly burn that bridge.
You shouldn't feel bad if she dumped him 6 months ago...And if she has a boyfriend now, then if she really cared about him, then she shouldn't have any problems with you dating her ex...Me and my ex are like best friends, and we really were just talking about somthing like this last night...And that is exactly what I told him...If you cousin is dating a guy now, and has feelings for him, then you dating her ex shouldn't bother her, but if she doesn't really care about her current boyfriend, then the feelings from her ex could possibly have returned...You apologized and that is the most you could do..Don't break up with him because of this, just keep dating him, and let your cousin work this out...
Well no one can make that decison but you. If she moved on the it should be ok.
ask your cousin and see who broke up with who if he broke up with her ask her what would be a good way to get back if she wanted to
Your cousin should know better that a guy shouldn't let ya'lls relationship get ruined. Thats family and if shes going to disown you like that, thats her problem. Whats it to her anyways they broke up almost half a year ago and shes moved on. If she still cares about her ex, which is your bf, then she still have feelings for him. Dont feel like your the bad cousin, you didn't do anything bad, well except get the leftovers from your cousin but tell your cousin your cousin to chill. Let her remember, she dumped him. get over it %26amp; move on.
JUST DONT WORRY
YOU AND YOUR COUSIN BOTH GET TOGETHER WITH HIM AND HAVE A THREESOME...
JUST ENJOY YOUR TEENAGE YEARS
BANG BANG BANG
she can get over it he's yours now and she's probably just jealous.
for future reference, it is always better NOT to date past boyfriends of any relatives or good friends.
Ask your cousin if she would like you to finish with him, if she says yes, then do it. You dont realise this yet but chances are he will only be your b.f for a while, She will be your cousin for a life time.
well she dumbed him and has a new boyfriend, maybe you should have talked to her about this before you started dating her ex. but her and her ex are over so there is no reason why she should be upset with you, leave her alone for a while and maybe she will come around and start talking to you, all you can do is apologize it's her decision if she is willing to accept it.
OK THIS IS KINDERGARTEN WORK!
HOW HAVE YOU DONE HER WRONG
She DUMPED HIM! So what if he is YOUR cousin's EX.
FOR HEAVENS SAKE YOU HAVENT BACKSTABBED HER
especially if SHE dumped him.
u know she is definitely dissapointed in u.esp if u were good friends along with just sis.if she dumped him for some reason it means the guy has a flaw. may b u'll find out later n she is just worried. talk to her.n situation is definitely uncomfortable for her.but if u really like the guy n he is worth it carry on ur sis wil either understand or be used to it.dont apologise repeatedly.
Yes, kinda she is still emotionally upset over him..... just give it time it will work out... Good Luck!
first, you need to put some freaking punctuation in your question. I didn't know when to stop, when to pause, and when to keep reading. and secondly, it's spelled ';cousin';. and thirdly, call your cousin and talk to her over the phone. Myspace messages aren't going to solve anything.
By the way, this is not a serious problem. When you have to pay your bills, then you'll know what a serious problem is.
Of course you did something wrong. That is very sick to date someone your relative dated. Dump the guy and start doing a lot of groveling and butt kissing. You have just caused a bunch of problems for your whole family because you couldn't go find a guy that hasn't dated a family member.
First of all...it's not the end of the world...this happens a lot..
If you were close to your cousin before all of this, you may want to give her time %26amp; see if she comes around....sometimes we forget to take into account how other
people may react to the decisions we make....this doesn't mean that other people's feelings are more important than yours. In this case, it sounds like you feel very guilty based on how your cousin has reacted...since you are young, ask yourself this...Is this guy (who my cousin already has a ';past'; with) worth losing the bond I have with my cousin? Just remember..family is forever...%26amp; forever is a loooong time. Plus, there might be a really good reason why your cousin broke up with him...HMMMMM. You did not do wrong, you just set yourself up for an amazing life lesson :)!!! You all will live through this drama %26amp; go on to experience so much more. Chin up!!! Be Well!! Best of luck!!!
...this is serious? I thought it was life threatening(though you can never tell with teenagers). My best advice is to wait for a response, and not go crazy.
well u should be fine d8ing him especially since she dumped him!
and if she has a problem w/ it then she shouldn't have dumped him.
and if she does have a problem w/ it dont let it bother u cz he is dateable now and open to any1 including u since she dumped him. so she should not have a problem w/ it cz she doesnt want him anymore.
no hes her ex!and she dumped him!sh doesnt own him.you shouldnt have 2 appoligize.it was six monyhs ago an she has a new bf she should be well over him.shes treating you unfairly.maybe she just isnt worth talking too anymore if shes going 2 be like that.
No i don't think that you did wrong. As long as you and your boy friend weren't seeing eachother before him and your cousin broke up I see no harm in that. You say that you apologized to your cousin, I would like you to email me and ill get in more depth with you on what you should do. I would also like to know what kind of apology you said to her like just I'm sorry, or will you forgive me? Here is my email address. You can contact me anytime you would like and I'll give you a very good website to go and help you apologize maybe a little bit better.
My email is:
sfgiantsknbr680@gmail.com
Alex,
Age 15TEENAGE serious problem, HELP!!! i need advice!?
If she left him that is her loss not yours if this person makes you happy then go for it dont put ur feelings aside for hers she wouldn't do it for you ...If it really came down to it....but she will get over it in time her feelings are kind of hurt right now..so jus let her kool off n let her contact u you made ur move n done ur part by apologizing so it's up to her hunny ..
People say blood is thicker than water but i say love is thicker than blood...so give that man all ur lovin's hey cuz if she don't want to talk to u n e more that's more love u can give to someone who will love you back good luck Hunny...dont let it get u down!!!
U should never get involved with an ex of ur friends or family. If u already apologized just wait till she cools off because shes probably still mad.
well, it depends if his worth staying with,like if your cousins upset, you shouldnt worry about it because its her fault, not yours, because she left him, because she didnt like him, and its not your fault because you fell for him, and its something that happens. but the question is, did u know that thye were going out, and then u relize theyre not, and then u went and scooped in. well if u did that, then, i would think thats a problem, but if u didnt know, its sumthing u shouldnt worry about. i hope this helped. good luck wit your coz.
ya you're wrong on many counts. you don't go out with ex's of relatives. learn how to spell too and stop worrying about boys.
This IS NOT A SERIOUS PROBLEM!!! Wake up and learn to tell the difference!
the only thing u can do is try to talk to her
and ask if she's ok
or u'll dump him if she's not
no it jus the rules u kno no matter how over ur ex u are u jus wouldnt like seein him wit someone else.....if u think hes worth it than forget abo ur couzin...but if hes just a nother guy which is 99% of the time...go play wit someone else...cuz its chicks over ***** remeber that!
Sorry kid.
The only serious problem that you have is your spelling, grammar, and punctuation.
Other than that you're doing just fine.
Yes you did something wrong, and you think its wrong too, if not you wouldn't apologize. there's nothing you can do to nake her feel better except assuring her that you would never intentionally do something like that just to hurt her. My solution, explain to her how much you fell for him (you bf her ex), how it was somewhat uncontrollabe, just how she fell for him when they met. After that, that's all you can do, it's now her choice to forgive and forget.
#1 rule never date a guy your friend or family has dated
Yeah it wasn't the best thing to do. Someone who once dated anyone close to you is OFF LIMITS. Unless the friend or relative of yours is understanding and okay with it, or if you don't care about them and want to possibly burn that bridge.
You shouldn't feel bad if she dumped him 6 months ago...And if she has a boyfriend now, then if she really cared about him, then she shouldn't have any problems with you dating her ex...Me and my ex are like best friends, and we really were just talking about somthing like this last night...And that is exactly what I told him...If you cousin is dating a guy now, and has feelings for him, then you dating her ex shouldn't bother her, but if she doesn't really care about her current boyfriend, then the feelings from her ex could possibly have returned...You apologized and that is the most you could do..Don't break up with him because of this, just keep dating him, and let your cousin work this out...
Well no one can make that decison but you. If she moved on the it should be ok.
ask your cousin and see who broke up with who if he broke up with her ask her what would be a good way to get back if she wanted to
Your cousin should know better that a guy shouldn't let ya'lls relationship get ruined. Thats family and if shes going to disown you like that, thats her problem. Whats it to her anyways they broke up almost half a year ago and shes moved on. If she still cares about her ex, which is your bf, then she still have feelings for him. Dont feel like your the bad cousin, you didn't do anything bad, well except get the leftovers from your cousin but tell your cousin your cousin to chill. Let her remember, she dumped him. get over it %26amp; move on.
JUST DONT WORRY
YOU AND YOUR COUSIN BOTH GET TOGETHER WITH HIM AND HAVE A THREESOME...
JUST ENJOY YOUR TEENAGE YEARS
BANG BANG BANG
she can get over it he's yours now and she's probably just jealous.
for future reference, it is always better NOT to date past boyfriends of any relatives or good friends.
Ask your cousin if she would like you to finish with him, if she says yes, then do it. You dont realise this yet but chances are he will only be your b.f for a while, She will be your cousin for a life time.
well she dumbed him and has a new boyfriend, maybe you should have talked to her about this before you started dating her ex. but her and her ex are over so there is no reason why she should be upset with you, leave her alone for a while and maybe she will come around and start talking to you, all you can do is apologize it's her decision if she is willing to accept it.
OK THIS IS KINDERGARTEN WORK!
HOW HAVE YOU DONE HER WRONG
She DUMPED HIM! So what if he is YOUR cousin's EX.
FOR HEAVENS SAKE YOU HAVENT BACKSTABBED HER
especially if SHE dumped him.
u know she is definitely dissapointed in u.esp if u were good friends along with just sis.if she dumped him for some reason it means the guy has a flaw. may b u'll find out later n she is just worried. talk to her.n situation is definitely uncomfortable for her.but if u really like the guy n he is worth it carry on ur sis wil either understand or be used to it.dont apologise repeatedly.
Yes, kinda she is still emotionally upset over him..... just give it time it will work out... Good Luck!
first, you need to put some freaking punctuation in your question. I didn't know when to stop, when to pause, and when to keep reading. and secondly, it's spelled ';cousin';. and thirdly, call your cousin and talk to her over the phone. Myspace messages aren't going to solve anything.
By the way, this is not a serious problem. When you have to pay your bills, then you'll know what a serious problem is.
Of course you did something wrong. That is very sick to date someone your relative dated. Dump the guy and start doing a lot of groveling and butt kissing. You have just caused a bunch of problems for your whole family because you couldn't go find a guy that hasn't dated a family member.
First of all...it's not the end of the world...this happens a lot..
If you were close to your cousin before all of this, you may want to give her time %26amp; see if she comes around....sometimes we forget to take into account how other
people may react to the decisions we make....this doesn't mean that other people's feelings are more important than yours. In this case, it sounds like you feel very guilty based on how your cousin has reacted...since you are young, ask yourself this...Is this guy (who my cousin already has a ';past'; with) worth losing the bond I have with my cousin? Just remember..family is forever...%26amp; forever is a loooong time. Plus, there might be a really good reason why your cousin broke up with him...HMMMMM. You did not do wrong, you just set yourself up for an amazing life lesson :)!!! You all will live through this drama %26amp; go on to experience so much more. Chin up!!! Be Well!! Best of luck!!!
...this is serious? I thought it was life threatening(though you can never tell with teenagers). My best advice is to wait for a response, and not go crazy.
well u should be fine d8ing him especially since she dumped him!
and if she has a problem w/ it then she shouldn't have dumped him.
and if she does have a problem w/ it dont let it bother u cz he is dateable now and open to any1 including u since she dumped him. so she should not have a problem w/ it cz she doesnt want him anymore.
no hes her ex!and she dumped him!sh doesnt own him.you shouldnt have 2 appoligize.it was six monyhs ago an she has a new bf she should be well over him.shes treating you unfairly.maybe she just isnt worth talking too anymore if shes going 2 be like that.
I'm a teenage girl and am seeking relationship advice?
Ok. I like this guy he's on the basketball team and i am also on the basketball team. He's very attractive. i just got out of an year and a half relationship and he's just getting out of a two year relationship. Anyways the circumstances in which we started talking were kind of awkward because alot of my teammates were basically trying to force us to talk to one another. so eventually we did start talking. and i always thougth he was attractive but i really started to fall for his personality. i feel as though i can talk to him about anything and he's so different from most guys i have been with. he's told me i'm different from the other girls and i think we are really vibing alot. his brithday was a week prior to today and i wrot ehim a nice little sweet birthday poem. a couple of days ago he asked me how i felt about him i didn't exactly give him an answer so the next day i wrote him a poem that explained how i felt. today one of his friends came up to me talkin about they readI'm a teenage girl and am seeking relationship advice?
well i think you should just let him decide.. you both came out of a long relationship but maybe you both need to take some time before jumping into a new one.. if you rush it you both might miss things from the other relationship.. just give it time but make sure he knows your interested.I'm a teenage girl and am seeking relationship advice?
Just take it slow. Things will all fall into place. Good luck.
So he let his friends see it?? Well thats either really good or really bad . The good thing is he is giving you apoval . The bad thing is he might be thinking wow that was very stupid but its unlikly because he does not sound that mean and if he did forget him...
just tell him i like u no reason hiding it anymore just tell him in person
Okay I don't know you're question, but I can understand exactly what you mean though. Well obvisiously he's a jerk for letting his friends read your poem, and to me I think he's not the one for you. Its okay for you to talk to him here or there, but for him to be something like your boyfriend is out of the question. And boys are most likely to do that, but he does like you, he just want his friends to think you're head over heals for him. And if I was you I'll pretend I didn't mean it, and say ';I only did it because of his birthday';.acne
well i think you should just let him decide.. you both came out of a long relationship but maybe you both need to take some time before jumping into a new one.. if you rush it you both might miss things from the other relationship.. just give it time but make sure he knows your interested.I'm a teenage girl and am seeking relationship advice?
Just take it slow. Things will all fall into place. Good luck.
So he let his friends see it?? Well thats either really good or really bad . The good thing is he is giving you apoval . The bad thing is he might be thinking wow that was very stupid but its unlikly because he does not sound that mean and if he did forget him...
just tell him i like u no reason hiding it anymore just tell him in person
Okay I don't know you're question, but I can understand exactly what you mean though. Well obvisiously he's a jerk for letting his friends read your poem, and to me I think he's not the one for you. Its okay for you to talk to him here or there, but for him to be something like your boyfriend is out of the question. And boys are most likely to do that, but he does like you, he just want his friends to think you're head over heals for him. And if I was you I'll pretend I didn't mean it, and say ';I only did it because of his birthday';.
I need advice from a woman or a teenage girl preferably?
im going out with this girl and i like her alot. but im having trouble getting to know her because i'm not too good at building great conversations. Im tired of asking how was class. I want to show her that school is not on my mind, but her and other things. Im usually the one starting the conversations so i need good conversation starters for teens.
*also, i notice that she's very shy around my friends. Is there anyway that i can break the shell or does she have do that on her own.I need advice from a woman or a teenage girl preferably?
do something fun together that will generate conversation. maybe rent a really scary movie and watch it with her. she'll be all over you during the really bad partsI need advice from a woman or a teenage girl preferably?
first of all don't have sex and be nice to her and give her gifts and workout don't be fat or too skinny o.k don't be all geeky don't be so smart make her feeel she love's you even more and don't stare at an other girl girlz don't like it when you cheat!
1st of all, have you gone on a date? That might bring you closer. And it might give you something to talk about. Build memories with her, so when you have nothing to talk about, you can say '; Remember when we...'; or whatever. As 4 her being shy around your friends, thats totally understandable. She feels pressured to impress them becus their your friends, and she might feel uncomfertable becus she might feel like they are hitting on her.
OMG yes, get her to meet your friends start laughing and have your friends and her joke around, Alot trust me. Also start asking if she has hobbies favorite color and never ask her about class unless she tells you that she is worried about a thing in the class.
Love the ****** of your dreams, Sam.
iam a girl and i know what your going through because my bf is never good with talking about or starting a conversation very well so you should talk about stuff like whats her favorite food, drink, mucic if she likes to hike or you could talk about upcoming dances or her family/friends and just try to make her laugh it will work out just don't talk anymore about school because it isn't that interesting.
good luck!!
pinky02
*also, i notice that she's very shy around my friends. Is there anyway that i can break the shell or does she have do that on her own.I need advice from a woman or a teenage girl preferably?
do something fun together that will generate conversation. maybe rent a really scary movie and watch it with her. she'll be all over you during the really bad partsI need advice from a woman or a teenage girl preferably?
first of all don't have sex and be nice to her and give her gifts and workout don't be fat or too skinny o.k don't be all geeky don't be so smart make her feeel she love's you even more and don't stare at an other girl girlz don't like it when you cheat!
1st of all, have you gone on a date? That might bring you closer. And it might give you something to talk about. Build memories with her, so when you have nothing to talk about, you can say '; Remember when we...'; or whatever. As 4 her being shy around your friends, thats totally understandable. She feels pressured to impress them becus their your friends, and she might feel uncomfertable becus she might feel like they are hitting on her.
OMG yes, get her to meet your friends start laughing and have your friends and her joke around, Alot trust me. Also start asking if she has hobbies favorite color and never ask her about class unless she tells you that she is worried about a thing in the class.
Love the ****** of your dreams, Sam.
iam a girl and i know what your going through because my bf is never good with talking about or starting a conversation very well so you should talk about stuff like whats her favorite food, drink, mucic if she likes to hike or you could talk about upcoming dances or her family/friends and just try to make her laugh it will work out just don't talk anymore about school because it isn't that interesting.
good luck!!
pinky02
Teenage girls in high school-need advice!!!!?
ok so i was with my boyfriend, and were 17 and i gave him a hj, but like apparently he said it was ';kinda weird, but nothing special';
what do u guys do? like what are the basic things you do???
thanks!!!!Teenage girls in high school-need advice!!!!?
Everything.
what do u guys do? like what are the basic things you do???
thanks!!!!Teenage girls in high school-need advice!!!!?
Everything.
Men, please respond. What 3 tidbits of advice would you give to your teenage daughter, regarding men.?
It's fine if you don't have a daughter, simply put yourself in the shoes of a father.Men, please respond. What 3 tidbits of advice would you give to your teenage daughter, regarding men.?
1 - judge ppl by facts (what they do) not by stories (what they say)
2 - don't rush sex with your bfriend, sex gets better the more is desired
(not sure how to pack this line though, don't have a dghtr to experiment how she would look like hearing that line :-)
3 - math is sexy. hook up with math geeks, they know how to handle curves :-)Men, please respond. What 3 tidbits of advice would you give to your teenage daughter, regarding men.?
While you don't want to think about them engaging in sexual activity, it's likely going to happen. With that in mind, I'd simply remind her that a guy will likely say he loves her and cares about her and while that may partly true, chances are, he really just wants to have sex with her.
The true measure of his care and love should come in his taking responsibility to protect her as best as he can from any unfortunate circumstances. (ie. he wouldn't think twice about NOT using a condom).
I hope that my life as an example is enough to advise my daughter about men.
1. Bad boys may seem exciting and alluring, but they are nothing but trouble, not only in the short term but the long term as well. Save your heartbreak, find a nice guy.
2. Boys in their teenage years are very hormonally driven, they will say and do just about anything to get sexual satisfaction. Be cautious and never under any circumstances give in to anyone until you are ready, hopefully that will be when you are married, as something that special should be saved for the one and only.
3. Just say no to drugs, alcohol and cigarettes. You will feel peer pressure, but first you need to respect yourself, and your convictions before anyone else will. If you feel you have to do something in order to be accepted into a group or have that person as a friend, then they are not really friends. Respect yourself, and then others will respect you and your opinions. The folks who smoke, drink and do drugs are not the ones you want to be around, no matter how nice they may seem.
1. Pick respectable and honest boyfriends, who come from good families.
2. Respect yourself, have limits, and he'll respect you.
3. Most importantly, I need to meet this kid and check him out before the first date.
Then three tidbits of advice to the boyfriend
1. Respect my daughter if you want to continue living
2. No alcohol or drugs, ever.
3. Be home at the time we set and never late.
1) If you date trash, you'll marry trash.
2) Never meet new guy alone.
3) Verify everything.
Your parents love you more than anybody else on this planet. We feed you, give you clothes, buy your gear, and take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and boyfriend can't and won't do that for you. If you want to know what true and undying love is, think about the way We feel about you. We know you don't love us as much as we love you, but we just wanted you to know how much we care.
Now when a boy asks you to do something that you know we don't approve of, smoke dope, take pills, or have sex, what are you going to do? Listen to the one who says he cares about you but can't and won't do a thing for you, or listen to what the people who gave you life and have shown you love all these years.
Your Mom and I love you and only want the best for you. Try to remember what we have taught you and you will do fine.
Guys only want one thing. Even if they are the sweetest nicest guy, the end result is sex. Try to find the guys will provide the most along the way. Dont give yourself away for the price of a happy meal.
1)Stay away from men
2)Stay away from men
3)Stay away from men
It's amazing how much of this advice is already exactly what I've told my daughters. One daughter brought home a ';love note'; at the age of 9 and didn't ';get it';. I told her about love and how her Mom and I love her and that this boy doesn't really love her, that he just thinks shes pretty/cute. Then went on to explain: ';Sometimes boys say things to girls that they really don't mean because they wanna kiss girls'; (remember, this is for a 9 year old)... her response... ';eeewwwwww';! Priceless! Shes a little older now and she now knows where babies come from (to which she also responded... ';eeewwwwwww';).
So, #1 - boys say things they don't really mean.
#2 - dating leads to marraige and marraige leads to children so only date Christian men (someone that shares your faith).
#3 - don't use sex as a weapon in your marraige
1 - judge ppl by facts (what they do) not by stories (what they say)
2 - don't rush sex with your bfriend, sex gets better the more is desired
(not sure how to pack this line though, don't have a dghtr to experiment how she would look like hearing that line :-)
3 - math is sexy. hook up with math geeks, they know how to handle curves :-)Men, please respond. What 3 tidbits of advice would you give to your teenage daughter, regarding men.?
While you don't want to think about them engaging in sexual activity, it's likely going to happen. With that in mind, I'd simply remind her that a guy will likely say he loves her and cares about her and while that may partly true, chances are, he really just wants to have sex with her.
The true measure of his care and love should come in his taking responsibility to protect her as best as he can from any unfortunate circumstances. (ie. he wouldn't think twice about NOT using a condom).
I hope that my life as an example is enough to advise my daughter about men.
1. Bad boys may seem exciting and alluring, but they are nothing but trouble, not only in the short term but the long term as well. Save your heartbreak, find a nice guy.
2. Boys in their teenage years are very hormonally driven, they will say and do just about anything to get sexual satisfaction. Be cautious and never under any circumstances give in to anyone until you are ready, hopefully that will be when you are married, as something that special should be saved for the one and only.
3. Just say no to drugs, alcohol and cigarettes. You will feel peer pressure, but first you need to respect yourself, and your convictions before anyone else will. If you feel you have to do something in order to be accepted into a group or have that person as a friend, then they are not really friends. Respect yourself, and then others will respect you and your opinions. The folks who smoke, drink and do drugs are not the ones you want to be around, no matter how nice they may seem.
1. Pick respectable and honest boyfriends, who come from good families.
2. Respect yourself, have limits, and he'll respect you.
3. Most importantly, I need to meet this kid and check him out before the first date.
Then three tidbits of advice to the boyfriend
1. Respect my daughter if you want to continue living
2. No alcohol or drugs, ever.
3. Be home at the time we set and never late.
1) If you date trash, you'll marry trash.
2) Never meet new guy alone.
3) Verify everything.
Your parents love you more than anybody else on this planet. We feed you, give you clothes, buy your gear, and take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and boyfriend can't and won't do that for you. If you want to know what true and undying love is, think about the way We feel about you. We know you don't love us as much as we love you, but we just wanted you to know how much we care.
Now when a boy asks you to do something that you know we don't approve of, smoke dope, take pills, or have sex, what are you going to do? Listen to the one who says he cares about you but can't and won't do a thing for you, or listen to what the people who gave you life and have shown you love all these years.
Your Mom and I love you and only want the best for you. Try to remember what we have taught you and you will do fine.
Guys only want one thing. Even if they are the sweetest nicest guy, the end result is sex. Try to find the guys will provide the most along the way. Dont give yourself away for the price of a happy meal.
1)Stay away from men
2)Stay away from men
3)Stay away from men
It's amazing how much of this advice is already exactly what I've told my daughters. One daughter brought home a ';love note'; at the age of 9 and didn't ';get it';. I told her about love and how her Mom and I love her and that this boy doesn't really love her, that he just thinks shes pretty/cute. Then went on to explain: ';Sometimes boys say things to girls that they really don't mean because they wanna kiss girls'; (remember, this is for a 9 year old)... her response... ';eeewwwwww';! Priceless! Shes a little older now and she now knows where babies come from (to which she also responded... ';eeewwwwwww';).
So, #1 - boys say things they don't really mean.
#2 - dating leads to marraige and marraige leads to children so only date Christian men (someone that shares your faith).
#3 - don't use sex as a weapon in your marraige
Is this a reasonably nice car for my teenage daughter? I need some advice..?
Does it appear to look like an ';older''; car? It is a 1999 Mercedes C-280...does anyone know about how much it is worth either? Could this be a reasonably nice car for my teenage daughter? Explain.
Look through the albulm there are a total of 3 pictures, the milage is good it gets about 33 miles per gallon and has about 150,000 miles already on the car...excluding the milage and etc, does this look like a nice car?
http://s705.photobucket.com/albums/ww54/…Is this a reasonably nice car for my teenage daughter? I need some advice..?
I've answered you other question, but check out this site for prices:
www.cars.com
(punch in your car info put no maximum on the price, zipcode then search an all the cars that are for sale in your neighborhood will come up and what the price is going around do comparisons)
www.edmunds.com
(same as cars.com punch in your info in used cars and info about your call will come on.)
http://www.edmunds.com/car-reviews.html
(punch in your car info and a review on it should come out about it)
http://www.kbb.com/
(same as edmunds punch your info on your car and useful stuff on your car should come up)
pretty much try the top two sites their the best recommended for car info's
Pretty much the car ranges from $ 4,000 to 12,000 going from High mileage cheap to Low milage expensive , all through out a decent one with 50-80k miles should go for $6-9,000 dollars goodluck
(( heres the link to a list of cars check it out)))
http://tinyurl.com/o6jxbqIs this a reasonably nice car for my teenage daughter? I need some advice..?
one of my friends moms had one of these cars, and recently gave it to my friend, it's contantly having to have work done to it, and it has ALOT of miles on it, why would you want to give that to your daughter? That SCREAMS bad idea to me.
look for something with 30k miles on it, even 80k would be nicer than 150k.
Pontiac sunfires are reasonably cheap and you can get them with low mileage, resoanably sporty too. Look into VW bugs, go to used car lots.
looks good but; you may want to consider the mileage as a prime factor. the car will need more maint. than anything else. usually things start to go south with a 10 y/o car at 150,000 miles. brakes, disks, front end bushings and tie rods, check out the kelly blue book value before purchasing this car. you have to wiegh the pro's and cons with an older car. you could be buying someone elses problem. see link for kelly blue book value. http://www.kbb.com/
Yes Because everone deserves a chance
Look through the albulm there are a total of 3 pictures, the milage is good it gets about 33 miles per gallon and has about 150,000 miles already on the car...excluding the milage and etc, does this look like a nice car?
http://s705.photobucket.com/albums/ww54/…Is this a reasonably nice car for my teenage daughter? I need some advice..?
I've answered you other question, but check out this site for prices:
www.cars.com
(punch in your car info put no maximum on the price, zipcode then search an all the cars that are for sale in your neighborhood will come up and what the price is going around do comparisons)
www.edmunds.com
(same as cars.com punch in your info in used cars and info about your call will come on.)
http://www.edmunds.com/car-reviews.html
(punch in your car info and a review on it should come out about it)
http://www.kbb.com/
(same as edmunds punch your info on your car and useful stuff on your car should come up)
pretty much try the top two sites their the best recommended for car info's
Pretty much the car ranges from $ 4,000 to 12,000 going from High mileage cheap to Low milage expensive , all through out a decent one with 50-80k miles should go for $6-9,000 dollars goodluck
(( heres the link to a list of cars check it out)))
http://tinyurl.com/o6jxbqIs this a reasonably nice car for my teenage daughter? I need some advice..?
one of my friends moms had one of these cars, and recently gave it to my friend, it's contantly having to have work done to it, and it has ALOT of miles on it, why would you want to give that to your daughter? That SCREAMS bad idea to me.
look for something with 30k miles on it, even 80k would be nicer than 150k.
Pontiac sunfires are reasonably cheap and you can get them with low mileage, resoanably sporty too. Look into VW bugs, go to used car lots.
looks good but; you may want to consider the mileage as a prime factor. the car will need more maint. than anything else. usually things start to go south with a 10 y/o car at 150,000 miles. brakes, disks, front end bushings and tie rods, check out the kelly blue book value before purchasing this car. you have to wiegh the pro's and cons with an older car. you could be buying someone elses problem. see link for kelly blue book value. http://www.kbb.com/
Yes Because everone deserves a chance
OMG!!! READ THIS!!! PLZ!!! TEENAGE BOY PROBLEMS!!! I NEED ADVICE!!! PLZ!!! *BOY TROUBLES KINDA*? im begging...?
Ok. So I've liked this guy for 3 years now. I dont see him very often. Maybe once every 3 months. When I do see him i get butterflys and all that. He can sometimes be an a**hole and just ugh. He is a total bad boy. Like with the drinking and smoking weed and always getting in trouble. But then can be sooooo sweet and patient and nice and funny and protective and a good listener and I know he worries about me but lets me decide what i want to do and thinks im very pretty and hot (reliable sources). i think he might have mulitable personaliy disorder. He asked me twice for pics of me naked and all that. I sent one in my bra and underware cause i just wanted to make him happy. Then like 6 monthes later he sees me again and askes for more. I was going to send the same one but my phone wouldnt let me (i didnt have pix messageing). So then he got disappointed. The next day I told him I was sorry and he got a little mad. (this was all over texting). But it was kinda my fault cause I called him bad stuff and said the wrong thing and didnt read the texts right. I hate that i love him. I want 2 stop. But I just can't. I am ALWAYS thinking about him and I now I won't even look at another guy without thinking of him. It kills me!!!! Btw I'm almost 14 and him almost 15. I kinda want him 2 b me first wit sex but hes had a lot of expierence and i havent at all. I also think he means soooo much more to me then i do to him but idk. I've been told that its kinda a worship thing but idk. we also come from like different worlds. im way to sheltered and book smart. while he is free to do almost anything and is majorly street smart but is also not at all stupid. btw. we r not going out.OMG!!! READ THIS!!! PLZ!!! TEENAGE BOY PROBLEMS!!! I NEED ADVICE!!! PLZ!!! *BOY TROUBLES KINDA*? im begging...?
You're thirteen, you've got a future going for you, and you want to ruin it all because you have a crush on this guy.
And this guy, let me tell you, is someone you don't want to have relations with AT ALL. He will reck your life and break your heart.
No matter how many sweet things he SAYS, he will never be able to remain faithful to you. Don't drive yourself along the wrong road.OMG!!! READ THIS!!! PLZ!!! TEENAGE BOY PROBLEMS!!! I NEED ADVICE!!! PLZ!!! *BOY TROUBLES KINDA*? im begging...?
Keep your pants on and run as fast as your your legs will carry you. Yes, he is a bad boy and is on a path of destruction. Is that what you really want. You are not looking at the consequences if you continue on with this.
sorry but he is using you he is just trying get things out of you...but you may be just attracted to the bad boy thing some girls like thatand your going a lil to far about thinking of letting him be your first you should think a lil harder bout that one
tell him how you feel about him. if you two start to go out you can always ask him to lay low on the drugs and stuff. if he loves you that much he will do anything to keep you
If you sleep with him he will be USING you. He won't call you after and he'll start treating you like CRAP...trust me...I know his type
jus give it up to him. hes sexually active so he is looking for more. jus use a condom.
he's 15 and he's drinking?!? and smoking weed?!?!?
lick my butt!
I don't think he thinks of you that way. And since you say he's street smart, not only is he bad for you but he's probably doing this to alot of other girls. Having them send him pictures of them naked and what not. And like you said he has had alot of experience do you really think he'll just stop at you?
please dont take this as me being mean to you... i know what you mean i have been there ... and i dont mean to sound like your mom i am only 21 but this comes from experience. so if sounds like something your mama would say... listen to it bc she right.
ok, so first of all your only 13 ...thats way to young to be having sex and sending nude pix to a guy you only see every 3-6 months. second, you probably dont need to be hanging out with that kind of person who is only 15 and is smokin weed and drinking ...which are both illegal !!! he sounds like trouble. also you said it your self hes an asshole!!!! from personal experience stay away because that type of guy only gets worse. and the fact that he got mad bc you couldnt send him nude pics is very disrespectfull. you are also disrespecting your self. the butterflies and you not being able to stop thinking about him...thats just puppy love and your nieve. (sorry) ... you have your whole life to find someone you truely love and dont sleep with this guy just bc you feel like you love him.expecially if hes already treating you like ****. and him wanting nude pics of you and then gettin mad when you dont really sounds like sex maybe all he wants. sex should be something special between two ppl who love each other and you even said that you dont feel like he cares as much about you as you do him. you said you hate that you love him? then why would you wanna give him your innocence?(virginity).
you dont have to take my advice. but like i said i been there... if you have any more questions feel free to email me back!!!!
o and good luck with your decision...
It's definitely an infatuation, however much it seems like you ';love'; him.
You should let him go, firstly, because he is not treating you well.
Secondly, because you never see him.
Find a guy that deserves you, I'm sure you deserve better than him.
If you're questioning this so much, it shows you're not sure about this.
If you're not sure and you don't have only good feelings about this, he is not the guy for you.
Ohh, honey, honey, honey.
I am fifteen, and believe me, i've gone through similar things such as this. And one of my best friends is going through it right now.
STAY AWAY FROM HIM! He is a jerk, and it is clear. He may be sweet, funny, and charming, but he only wants one thing. If he is mad because you won't send pictures, then you know that he's not interested in your personality (Which he should be because you sound like a great girl). Also, i would stay away from the 'bad boys; I have the same problem you do about liking them though. But you really just have to stay away, because nothing good comes form them in the end! They are all losers. Plus, if you DID date him, it sounds to me he wouldn't be faithfull, especially because it would be long-distance. Which are never any fun, anyways.
And please, please, PLEASE don't send pictures! Because chances are, he sends them around to his friends. I've been very naive and fallen into sending pics, and i regret it very much. You don't want your entire town seeing you in your panties, trust me! Never send something you wouldn't want to see again. I mean...think about it. Your PARENTS could somehow even see the pics! It's really not a smart idea.
I know the heart wants what the heart wants, but stand up for yourself to him! Don't send pictures! Tell him if he cares about you, then your personality alone should satisfy him alone.
If you send them because you think it'll make him date you...think of it this way: If you give out all your ice cream for free, no one is gonna want to buy the truck!
Just stay away from him. He's total bad news.
You're thirteen, you've got a future going for you, and you want to ruin it all because you have a crush on this guy.
And this guy, let me tell you, is someone you don't want to have relations with AT ALL. He will reck your life and break your heart.
No matter how many sweet things he SAYS, he will never be able to remain faithful to you. Don't drive yourself along the wrong road.OMG!!! READ THIS!!! PLZ!!! TEENAGE BOY PROBLEMS!!! I NEED ADVICE!!! PLZ!!! *BOY TROUBLES KINDA*? im begging...?
Keep your pants on and run as fast as your your legs will carry you. Yes, he is a bad boy and is on a path of destruction. Is that what you really want. You are not looking at the consequences if you continue on with this.
sorry but he is using you he is just trying get things out of you...but you may be just attracted to the bad boy thing some girls like thatand your going a lil to far about thinking of letting him be your first you should think a lil harder bout that one
tell him how you feel about him. if you two start to go out you can always ask him to lay low on the drugs and stuff. if he loves you that much he will do anything to keep you
If you sleep with him he will be USING you. He won't call you after and he'll start treating you like CRAP...trust me...I know his type
jus give it up to him. hes sexually active so he is looking for more. jus use a condom.
he's 15 and he's drinking?!? and smoking weed?!?!?
lick my butt!
I don't think he thinks of you that way. And since you say he's street smart, not only is he bad for you but he's probably doing this to alot of other girls. Having them send him pictures of them naked and what not. And like you said he has had alot of experience do you really think he'll just stop at you?
please dont take this as me being mean to you... i know what you mean i have been there ... and i dont mean to sound like your mom i am only 21 but this comes from experience. so if sounds like something your mama would say... listen to it bc she right.
ok, so first of all your only 13 ...thats way to young to be having sex and sending nude pix to a guy you only see every 3-6 months. second, you probably dont need to be hanging out with that kind of person who is only 15 and is smokin weed and drinking ...which are both illegal !!! he sounds like trouble. also you said it your self hes an asshole!!!! from personal experience stay away because that type of guy only gets worse. and the fact that he got mad bc you couldnt send him nude pics is very disrespectfull. you are also disrespecting your self. the butterflies and you not being able to stop thinking about him...thats just puppy love and your nieve. (sorry) ... you have your whole life to find someone you truely love and dont sleep with this guy just bc you feel like you love him.expecially if hes already treating you like ****. and him wanting nude pics of you and then gettin mad when you dont really sounds like sex maybe all he wants. sex should be something special between two ppl who love each other and you even said that you dont feel like he cares as much about you as you do him. you said you hate that you love him? then why would you wanna give him your innocence?(virginity).
you dont have to take my advice. but like i said i been there... if you have any more questions feel free to email me back!!!!
o and good luck with your decision...
It's definitely an infatuation, however much it seems like you ';love'; him.
You should let him go, firstly, because he is not treating you well.
Secondly, because you never see him.
Find a guy that deserves you, I'm sure you deserve better than him.
If you're questioning this so much, it shows you're not sure about this.
If you're not sure and you don't have only good feelings about this, he is not the guy for you.
Ohh, honey, honey, honey.
I am fifteen, and believe me, i've gone through similar things such as this. And one of my best friends is going through it right now.
STAY AWAY FROM HIM! He is a jerk, and it is clear. He may be sweet, funny, and charming, but he only wants one thing. If he is mad because you won't send pictures, then you know that he's not interested in your personality (Which he should be because you sound like a great girl). Also, i would stay away from the 'bad boys; I have the same problem you do about liking them though. But you really just have to stay away, because nothing good comes form them in the end! They are all losers. Plus, if you DID date him, it sounds to me he wouldn't be faithfull, especially because it would be long-distance. Which are never any fun, anyways.
And please, please, PLEASE don't send pictures! Because chances are, he sends them around to his friends. I've been very naive and fallen into sending pics, and i regret it very much. You don't want your entire town seeing you in your panties, trust me! Never send something you wouldn't want to see again. I mean...think about it. Your PARENTS could somehow even see the pics! It's really not a smart idea.
I know the heart wants what the heart wants, but stand up for yourself to him! Don't send pictures! Tell him if he cares about you, then your personality alone should satisfy him alone.
If you send them because you think it'll make him date you...think of it this way: If you give out all your ice cream for free, no one is gonna want to buy the truck!
Just stay away from him. He's total bad news.
Can I have some advice on going into high school, like what to expect and other tips for a teenage girl.?
Hi freshman! So, you're starting high school? I'm going to be a sophomore in high school, so here are some tips for your new year. Expect it to be different from middle/ jr. high school. You may be struggling with it in the beginning; you may turn that high GPA you got back in eighth grade to one that's kind of lower, but please don't let it affect you too much and just keep on giving it your best effort. Please, in all classes, turn in everything on time and don't slack off or procrastinate... it is SO NOT fun (belive me, been there, done that) when you wait last minute on an important assignment. Participate as much as you can in class discussions (mostly in English class), and don't let intimidation get to you. As for your new peers, treat them with respect (the Golden Rule!) Hang tight with your old eighth grade friends and pick a spot to sit during break or lunch (on the first day, walk around with them on campus to find out where classes are). It's also a GREAT idea to join a club or a sport and meet people there. Right now, I'm going to golf as a sport, I'm in Model United Nations, and I'm thinking about going to Key Club with my friends. You should go out and explore the opportunities your new high school has to offer. Before you know it, freshman year will be over (it sure went by fast for me)! Good luck, buena suerte, et bon chance (take a foreign language class in high school and stick with it...you'll be successful)!Can I have some advice on going into high school, like what to expect and other tips for a teenage girl.?
Make every girl as jealous as possible; treat every guy like yesterday's sandwich. Your Yahoo inbox will always be full. Good Luck.Can I have some advice on going into high school, like what to expect and other tips for a teenage girl.?
Be yourself alot of high school girls think they are that and if you don't act yourself you wont have any friends
My advice, stay away all the cliches that form in highschool.
Hang around nerdy types in the class for good notes and to get a direction in life. Try out for a sports club like soccer or tennis. Try to join an afternoon organization like the art club or something.
Despite the way it may seem, everyone there is living off of mommy and daddy and you are there to learn the skills so that one day you can support yourself.
be youself,people can see if your fake.its not that hard.just have good self confidence,but dont be cocky.good luck
just be ur self and if they don't like then they shouldn't be ur friends
High School can be the best and worst years of your life. Be yourself no matter what, even when the going gets tough and people will learn to respect you for who you are. Hold to your beliefs no matter what and more than anything remember that it is YOUR life and no one else's! Dont forget to have fun!
BE YOURSELF!!
JUST BE YOURSELF! Nothing more, nothing less!
What to expect? expect a lot of jealous people who would try to put you down. There are lot of those in this world, you cannot hide from them unfortunately. And oh, expect a lot of cute and sporty guys! ;)
This comes from my ALMOST 16 yr old (11th grade) daughter based on her experiences.....
1-Don't go in acting like you are the big and bad one...keep a low profile.
2- Remember you are a small fish in a big pond. You'll grow to be one of the BIG FISH soon enough.
3- High school years go by really fast so don't sweat the small stuff.
4-Pick and choose your friends wisely cause the ';authority figures'; do and will judge you by the company you keep. (if you hang with s.l.u.t.s. you will be labeled as one too, etc...)
5-Don't ask the upper class people for directions ANYWHERE they will send you in the wrong direction ON PURPOSE
6-Don't ask another freshman for directions either cause they are most likely just as lost as you are.
7- When in doubt... go to guidance or a teacher
Hope it helps!!
High school can be rough, many dropout because of the harshness! Be yourself and concentrate on your studies, don't get involved in the cliche' of what the newest fads of the week are. Because they wont mean crap when you graduate. Always be yourself and be happy, kids can be so mean....but don't let them affect your days. If I could go back to high school I would change so many things. For one I wouldn't have worried so much about what everyone thought about me and my every move. Because nobody really cared! The only thing anyone though about was making themselves look cool.....but what is really cool? I think someone is cool that has an education and strives to fulfill their every dream. But others may think it is cool to pick fun and be the hottest girl in school....NOT COOL! :)
-A
confidance with urself and a good friend.
Be confident. Don't fall to peer pressure, and ALWAYS respect yourself. You'll be fine. ;)
Pay attention, give your teachers respect--even if you feel like they pick on you, be nice to those around you, ask for help when you need it, and try your best in everything you do!
Lots of good advice here. I'll echo be yourself. I never thought of myself as a popular kid in high school. My dad was always reassuring me that things would catch up. At my twentieth reunion people who didn't even as me the time of day in school were coming up to me saying things like ';you were my rock';, ';I could always rely on you';, ';you were my compass';. You don't always know what people are thinking. Sometimes people tease or belittle because they lack confidence in themselves, sometimes they're testing your resolve to be yourself and your confidence. Remember that many people are looking for examples, be yourself, act from your own internal compass of right and wrong, don't be pushed by others into things you really don't feel comfortable with. Have a good time, join a club and study. It will be over before you know it.acne
Make every girl as jealous as possible; treat every guy like yesterday's sandwich. Your Yahoo inbox will always be full. Good Luck.Can I have some advice on going into high school, like what to expect and other tips for a teenage girl.?
Be yourself alot of high school girls think they are that and if you don't act yourself you wont have any friends
My advice, stay away all the cliches that form in highschool.
Hang around nerdy types in the class for good notes and to get a direction in life. Try out for a sports club like soccer or tennis. Try to join an afternoon organization like the art club or something.
Despite the way it may seem, everyone there is living off of mommy and daddy and you are there to learn the skills so that one day you can support yourself.
be youself,people can see if your fake.its not that hard.just have good self confidence,but dont be cocky.good luck
just be ur self and if they don't like then they shouldn't be ur friends
High School can be the best and worst years of your life. Be yourself no matter what, even when the going gets tough and people will learn to respect you for who you are. Hold to your beliefs no matter what and more than anything remember that it is YOUR life and no one else's! Dont forget to have fun!
BE YOURSELF!!
JUST BE YOURSELF! Nothing more, nothing less!
What to expect? expect a lot of jealous people who would try to put you down. There are lot of those in this world, you cannot hide from them unfortunately. And oh, expect a lot of cute and sporty guys! ;)
This comes from my ALMOST 16 yr old (11th grade) daughter based on her experiences.....
1-Don't go in acting like you are the big and bad one...keep a low profile.
2- Remember you are a small fish in a big pond. You'll grow to be one of the BIG FISH soon enough.
3- High school years go by really fast so don't sweat the small stuff.
4-Pick and choose your friends wisely cause the ';authority figures'; do and will judge you by the company you keep. (if you hang with s.l.u.t.s. you will be labeled as one too, etc...)
5-Don't ask the upper class people for directions ANYWHERE they will send you in the wrong direction ON PURPOSE
6-Don't ask another freshman for directions either cause they are most likely just as lost as you are.
7- When in doubt... go to guidance or a teacher
Hope it helps!!
High school can be rough, many dropout because of the harshness! Be yourself and concentrate on your studies, don't get involved in the cliche' of what the newest fads of the week are. Because they wont mean crap when you graduate. Always be yourself and be happy, kids can be so mean....but don't let them affect your days. If I could go back to high school I would change so many things. For one I wouldn't have worried so much about what everyone thought about me and my every move. Because nobody really cared! The only thing anyone though about was making themselves look cool.....but what is really cool? I think someone is cool that has an education and strives to fulfill their every dream. But others may think it is cool to pick fun and be the hottest girl in school....NOT COOL! :)
-A
confidance with urself and a good friend.
Be confident. Don't fall to peer pressure, and ALWAYS respect yourself. You'll be fine. ;)
Pay attention, give your teachers respect--even if you feel like they pick on you, be nice to those around you, ask for help when you need it, and try your best in everything you do!
Lots of good advice here. I'll echo be yourself. I never thought of myself as a popular kid in high school. My dad was always reassuring me that things would catch up. At my twentieth reunion people who didn't even as me the time of day in school were coming up to me saying things like ';you were my rock';, ';I could always rely on you';, ';you were my compass';. You don't always know what people are thinking. Sometimes people tease or belittle because they lack confidence in themselves, sometimes they're testing your resolve to be yourself and your confidence. Remember that many people are looking for examples, be yourself, act from your own internal compass of right and wrong, don't be pushed by others into things you really don't feel comfortable with. Have a good time, join a club and study. It will be over before you know it.
Please could someone (teenage girls?) give me some advice?
I have only just got together with my boyfriend, we've only actually been going out for three days. Yesterday (when we'd been going out for two days) he came to my house and my mum was at work, we made out a lot and he undid my bra. We're both fourteen but he's one of the youngest in his year and i'm one of the oldest in mine (he's in year ten, i'm in year nine). His last girlfriend was in year eleven and was a lot more up for stuff than me. I know he's still a virgin but him and his last girlfriend definitely did sexual things. I got a bit worried when he undid my bra but he didn't try and take any of my clothes off or anything. I know i'm nowhere near ready for sex or anything. Should i talk to him about it? I know he wants to do sex things with me but i'm not even sure i know how. Has anyone else ever been in a situation like this? What did you do? I don't want to break up with him, i've liked him for a long time. Thank you to anyone who helps.Please could someone (teenage girls?) give me some advice?
Yeh, definatly talk to him about itPlease could someone (teenage girls?) give me some advice?
I only have one question?
Why did he not go home from your house with a sore jaw and a black eye?
No, I have never been in a situation like this. I don't go out with sluts and I certainly didn't go round ';making out'; with people I'd been going out with for two days.
You say no. If he respects it, fine. If he doesn't, you ditch him. End of issue.
i know this isnt what you want to hear but growing up and realising this it was the only thing i wish i had done
im 18 now...
speak to him about it... if he tries forcing you into anything DONT do anything you dont want to do
if he breaks up with you because you wont do anything with him i promise you he wasnt worth it and he is going to get to about my age and realise that girls will tell him where to go for being like this
Talk to him. If he really likes you, he will understand.
Forget his exes. Again if he really likes, you will be different.
At The Age You Are Now, Both Your Hormones And His Will Be All Over The Place. Boys Are Particuarlarly bad at this age Start Feeling More Sexually Active. Just Speak To Him And Tell Him How You Feel About It.
If He's Cool With It He's A Keeper, If He's Got AProblem Tell Him Where To Go As You Deserve Better!!!
:)
I wouldn't say anything but if it came to it, i would just say, no i'm not ready for that type of relationship yet.
If he gets all whiney about it, he isn't worth it.
Past is the past dont worry about his x's. You dont have 2 do anything you dont want to because you might suffer consequences. So just wait till youre ready mah.
he seems to be after one thing when i met my bf he didnt try anything on for about 2 weeks
Let`s be honest his hormones are running wild and he is not thinking with his brain but what hangs between his legs, many boys are like that at his age. So i should have a talk to him and say that you are really not ready for that type of relationship at the moment, but be aware that he might , i hate using this words , dump you, And move on to another girl who will give in to his sexual advances. BUT do not give in to his demands, think about you and how you feel.
your only 14- at this age you are not ready for sex and you don't seem to be ready for anything sex related. Don't let him pressure you into doing these things- he's young and his hormones are all over the place im sure (as yours are as well), this is normal but its very important that you do not do anything stupid like have sex , and if you do YOU KNOW YOU MUST USE A CONDOM. But , you should bring your concerns up in conversation and let him know that you'd like to wait until you felt more comfortable to do anything. You guys are still kids, the likley hood of you marrying eachother is slim to slim to none and LOVE is definately not an issue here....its his hormones doing that action. It's very good that you recognize that his is something your not ok with...very good , stand up for yourself.
much respect.
Don't feel like you have to do anything. It's totally up to you what you do and don't do. If you don't feel ready, just say so. If he really likes you then he will wait too, and if he doesn't then he's just not worth it.
You're 14, and I know lots of people do things when they're that young, but really you're still too young. Try and wait, because technically it is against the law. My sister's 14 and I'd go mad if she was doing stuff, lol!
However, when you're ready, and old enough, you shouldn't be scared. If you're scared, then that means you're not comfortable with the person that you're with, and if you're not comfortable then you shouldn't be doing it. Don't worry about not knowing what to do because it will come naturally and if not, you will understand more about each others bodies over time.
But as I said before, you're technically too young...
Well, if you look at it from this way. If he really loves you and cares about you he wont make you to any think you don't want to do. You should maybe talk to him about it but then again if he hasn't mentioned any think about it then he might think you hinting that you want to do stuff. I am only 14 myself and i have been in this kinda situation before. I just said look i am no way ready to do anything sexual with you, if you want to be doing things like that then you need to find a girl who is willing to do these kind of things with you. If you loved me as much as you say you do you would understand and not make me do anything i don't want to. He stayed with me for another month and a half then he dumped me. I knew it was coming but i was ok with it because i didn't want to do anything like that. So maybe just tell him straight or wait until he brings it up?
Hope this helps (:
Yeh, definatly talk to him about itPlease could someone (teenage girls?) give me some advice?
I only have one question?
Why did he not go home from your house with a sore jaw and a black eye?
No, I have never been in a situation like this. I don't go out with sluts and I certainly didn't go round ';making out'; with people I'd been going out with for two days.
You say no. If he respects it, fine. If he doesn't, you ditch him. End of issue.
i know this isnt what you want to hear but growing up and realising this it was the only thing i wish i had done
im 18 now...
speak to him about it... if he tries forcing you into anything DONT do anything you dont want to do
if he breaks up with you because you wont do anything with him i promise you he wasnt worth it and he is going to get to about my age and realise that girls will tell him where to go for being like this
Talk to him. If he really likes you, he will understand.
Forget his exes. Again if he really likes, you will be different.
At The Age You Are Now, Both Your Hormones And His Will Be All Over The Place. Boys Are Particuarlarly bad at this age Start Feeling More Sexually Active. Just Speak To Him And Tell Him How You Feel About It.
If He's Cool With It He's A Keeper, If He's Got AProblem Tell Him Where To Go As You Deserve Better!!!
:)
I wouldn't say anything but if it came to it, i would just say, no i'm not ready for that type of relationship yet.
If he gets all whiney about it, he isn't worth it.
Past is the past dont worry about his x's. You dont have 2 do anything you dont want to because you might suffer consequences. So just wait till youre ready mah.
he seems to be after one thing when i met my bf he didnt try anything on for about 2 weeks
Let`s be honest his hormones are running wild and he is not thinking with his brain but what hangs between his legs, many boys are like that at his age. So i should have a talk to him and say that you are really not ready for that type of relationship at the moment, but be aware that he might , i hate using this words , dump you, And move on to another girl who will give in to his sexual advances. BUT do not give in to his demands, think about you and how you feel.
your only 14- at this age you are not ready for sex and you don't seem to be ready for anything sex related. Don't let him pressure you into doing these things- he's young and his hormones are all over the place im sure (as yours are as well), this is normal but its very important that you do not do anything stupid like have sex , and if you do YOU KNOW YOU MUST USE A CONDOM. But , you should bring your concerns up in conversation and let him know that you'd like to wait until you felt more comfortable to do anything. You guys are still kids, the likley hood of you marrying eachother is slim to slim to none and LOVE is definately not an issue here....its his hormones doing that action. It's very good that you recognize that his is something your not ok with...very good , stand up for yourself.
much respect.
Don't feel like you have to do anything. It's totally up to you what you do and don't do. If you don't feel ready, just say so. If he really likes you then he will wait too, and if he doesn't then he's just not worth it.
You're 14, and I know lots of people do things when they're that young, but really you're still too young. Try and wait, because technically it is against the law. My sister's 14 and I'd go mad if she was doing stuff, lol!
However, when you're ready, and old enough, you shouldn't be scared. If you're scared, then that means you're not comfortable with the person that you're with, and if you're not comfortable then you shouldn't be doing it. Don't worry about not knowing what to do because it will come naturally and if not, you will understand more about each others bodies over time.
But as I said before, you're technically too young...
Well, if you look at it from this way. If he really loves you and cares about you he wont make you to any think you don't want to do. You should maybe talk to him about it but then again if he hasn't mentioned any think about it then he might think you hinting that you want to do stuff. I am only 14 myself and i have been in this kinda situation before. I just said look i am no way ready to do anything sexual with you, if you want to be doing things like that then you need to find a girl who is willing to do these kind of things with you. If you loved me as much as you say you do you would understand and not make me do anything i don't want to. He stayed with me for another month and a half then he dumped me. I knew it was coming but i was ok with it because i didn't want to do anything like that. So maybe just tell him straight or wait until he brings it up?
Hope this helps (:
Any advice for bonding with husband's teenage son?
I don't think he likes me very much. I try to include him in all of our family activities but, he never has much to do with me. I don't know what else to do. Any ideas?Any advice for bonding with husband's teenage son?
Teenagers are not always willing to accept a step parent as much as younger kids. Look for an opportunity to show him that you do care about him like he was your own child. Listen to him when he has problems at school or girlfriend issues. If he sees you truly listen to him, you will gain his trust. Offer advice and let him know you are there for him.Any advice for bonding with husband's teenage son?
Honestly, if you push yourself on him, the further he is going to back away - don't try so hard, He may just be of the age where any adult really isn't someone he wants to be around - don't take it so personally. You don't have to be his buddy - as long as he respects you and your role in your husband's life - that is really all that matters.
find a common interest.
if you're not intersted in anythign he likes, go to him and tell him:
';Little Johnny, I know we haven't been the best of friends, but it's important to me that we get to know each other. I thin k a great way to do that would be for me to learn XXXX from you,'; and let X represent one of HIS interests.
Lots of good info in this book even if he's not your teenager....
How to Really Love Your Teenager, Ross Campbell
Be your self, and let him know you want to get close, that you are not there to replace anyone ( mom) you are there as a new member of the family and you would like for him to give you a chance, that you understand it will take time, and It would be nice if he give u a chance
Sweetie, he's a teenager. I have a hard time bonding with my own son and I'm a social worker. When kids are that age, there is alot going on for them. Their bodies are changing, hormones are running the gammat and the thought of them spending ';family time'; together has them opting to chew and swallow broken glass. I guess in their eyes, we are crowding them and they only want to spend time with their friends.
I do have a suggestion that I often recommend because it's worked with my own boys...and it's a bit manipulative, but it works wonders. When my husband is at work, I'll often ask for my son's help with things and then laugh and joke around while we are doing whatever the task may be. I literally bought a book shelf (that I didn't need)that he helped me assemble. I'm not sure we followed the instructions, but he got to keep it in his room and it's a constant joke between us. Alot of times it's going to be the little things that will bring his guard down. Don't buy his affection and trust...earn it. And in doing those little things...you will. It's just a matter of time. Then you can bring on the family fun outings. too much too fast and he'll shut down on you. So go and loosen a door knob, shove something on a top shelf, or if you're truly desperate...buy a book shelf, just do something that has the two of you working together and bonding.
have your husband talk to him he might think you are trying to replace him real mother let him know you arent . in my opion?
How about a fun trip - with just the two of you, to somewhere awesome, Like Sea World?
newsflash! teenagers really don't like anyone. especially adults. don't pressure him. he'll come around on their own. bribery works well.
find out what he likes take him to a baseball game or something maybe give him a couple dollors to go hang out with friends if he knows your not so attached he`ll find the right time to talk to you dont bug him so much give him a little space
I'm trying to bond with my wifes teenage son....The best way I know so far is don't try to ';mother'; him...instead try to be his friend. Make it clear subtlely that you are not a replacement for his mother but an addition to his mother, and how lucky he is to have 2 female influences in his life. Just be the ';cool'; influence on him, be his friend. Be ';real'; with him. Eventually he will trust and respect you. I don't know his age..but get in tune with the lingo he uses and what he likes to do....if you find tid bits of trivia that he is interested in it will show him that you care and are interested in what he thinks. Primarily... just be his friend.
My new wife has had the same problem. My son was 16 when my wife, ';Kat'; and got married. He seemed to resent her no matter what she did for him. She made sure he was included in all family activities and so forth. What finally made the difference was Kat telling him, she was not his mother, was not trying to be his mother, and did not want to replace his mother. She then added a personal touch of things that she did for him. She would perhaps make his favorite dish and let everyone know this meal was HIS idea. Maybe she would go out of her way just for him. I even told her to defend him in an argument with me. He finally came around.
mini golfing.
Well he probally doesn't like you too much now because he still feels bad about his parents separation and it hurts him. Think about when you were young and if you had parents that remarried and then maybe you can kinda see how he feels.Maybe he just needs time to come around. I don't know how recently he came into your life, but always be good to him and he will see that and remember that and he will know deep down that you are a good person and eventualy it won't be so hard on him. I would keep including him in the family activies and let him come around on his own. Forsing him to do it anyways will only make him feel more mad. You could tell him I know that this is all hard to adjust to but I really want to get to know you and I would never want to take the place of your mother I just am wanting to get to know you and try it at that. Otherwise ask your husband for some advice, because he should know his son good. Just an idea. Hope it helps. Good luck to you and I hope you guys have a really good relationship someday.
Leave him alone, let him come around on his own. Stop trying to MAKE him part of your family. Give him time to get used to you being his stepmother.
It takes time. My GF went through this and now he totally trusts to talk with her about things. Keep letting him know he is important and loved. It will work out
don't in a hurry, time will come that he will know you are trying your best. give him space to think. sooner or later he'll realize you are worth loving too.
GOOD LUCK!
He wont. It's a loyalty thing, but all teenage boys like lots of nice food.
That is so not easy. You have several things against you. First, fathers have better chance bonding with teenage boys because they were once like that so they can learn to speak their language. Second, even biological mothers can't get close to teenage sons even though they were close when younger. Teenage boys change from year to year as they grow bigger and learn more street stuff from their peers, they just think they are smarter and not feel like talking, period.
Third, they know about the divorce situation and probably are forced into a living situation they don't like but they too old to cry about it. So they take it out on the environment and you are part of that environment.
Only a selected group of boys are into sports (compared to before, they are now into video games or online chats. They need a peer group to ';hang together';, not adults. The most you can do is to help find similar boys for him to hang with. He won't deal with you.
My step son isn't a teen just yet, but I think this might help. Try to get involved in some of the things he likes to do. I know Austin my step son love to build things, so I bought him a model car and we put it together. Now I knew nothing about models but that is what made it interesting because he helped me learn and we boned that way. It is worth a try. Even if your first idea doesn't work keep going back you have to have to be willing to go the long way. Keeping offering him things that he likes to do and he will come around in time. Good luck.
Teenagers are not always willing to accept a step parent as much as younger kids. Look for an opportunity to show him that you do care about him like he was your own child. Listen to him when he has problems at school or girlfriend issues. If he sees you truly listen to him, you will gain his trust. Offer advice and let him know you are there for him.Any advice for bonding with husband's teenage son?
Honestly, if you push yourself on him, the further he is going to back away - don't try so hard, He may just be of the age where any adult really isn't someone he wants to be around - don't take it so personally. You don't have to be his buddy - as long as he respects you and your role in your husband's life - that is really all that matters.
find a common interest.
if you're not intersted in anythign he likes, go to him and tell him:
';Little Johnny, I know we haven't been the best of friends, but it's important to me that we get to know each other. I thin k a great way to do that would be for me to learn XXXX from you,'; and let X represent one of HIS interests.
Lots of good info in this book even if he's not your teenager....
How to Really Love Your Teenager, Ross Campbell
Be your self, and let him know you want to get close, that you are not there to replace anyone ( mom) you are there as a new member of the family and you would like for him to give you a chance, that you understand it will take time, and It would be nice if he give u a chance
Sweetie, he's a teenager. I have a hard time bonding with my own son and I'm a social worker. When kids are that age, there is alot going on for them. Their bodies are changing, hormones are running the gammat and the thought of them spending ';family time'; together has them opting to chew and swallow broken glass. I guess in their eyes, we are crowding them and they only want to spend time with their friends.
I do have a suggestion that I often recommend because it's worked with my own boys...and it's a bit manipulative, but it works wonders. When my husband is at work, I'll often ask for my son's help with things and then laugh and joke around while we are doing whatever the task may be. I literally bought a book shelf (that I didn't need)that he helped me assemble. I'm not sure we followed the instructions, but he got to keep it in his room and it's a constant joke between us. Alot of times it's going to be the little things that will bring his guard down. Don't buy his affection and trust...earn it. And in doing those little things...you will. It's just a matter of time. Then you can bring on the family fun outings. too much too fast and he'll shut down on you. So go and loosen a door knob, shove something on a top shelf, or if you're truly desperate...buy a book shelf, just do something that has the two of you working together and bonding.
have your husband talk to him he might think you are trying to replace him real mother let him know you arent . in my opion?
How about a fun trip - with just the two of you, to somewhere awesome, Like Sea World?
newsflash! teenagers really don't like anyone. especially adults. don't pressure him. he'll come around on their own. bribery works well.
find out what he likes take him to a baseball game or something maybe give him a couple dollors to go hang out with friends if he knows your not so attached he`ll find the right time to talk to you dont bug him so much give him a little space
I'm trying to bond with my wifes teenage son....The best way I know so far is don't try to ';mother'; him...instead try to be his friend. Make it clear subtlely that you are not a replacement for his mother but an addition to his mother, and how lucky he is to have 2 female influences in his life. Just be the ';cool'; influence on him, be his friend. Be ';real'; with him. Eventually he will trust and respect you. I don't know his age..but get in tune with the lingo he uses and what he likes to do....if you find tid bits of trivia that he is interested in it will show him that you care and are interested in what he thinks. Primarily... just be his friend.
My new wife has had the same problem. My son was 16 when my wife, ';Kat'; and got married. He seemed to resent her no matter what she did for him. She made sure he was included in all family activities and so forth. What finally made the difference was Kat telling him, she was not his mother, was not trying to be his mother, and did not want to replace his mother. She then added a personal touch of things that she did for him. She would perhaps make his favorite dish and let everyone know this meal was HIS idea. Maybe she would go out of her way just for him. I even told her to defend him in an argument with me. He finally came around.
mini golfing.
Well he probally doesn't like you too much now because he still feels bad about his parents separation and it hurts him. Think about when you were young and if you had parents that remarried and then maybe you can kinda see how he feels.Maybe he just needs time to come around. I don't know how recently he came into your life, but always be good to him and he will see that and remember that and he will know deep down that you are a good person and eventualy it won't be so hard on him. I would keep including him in the family activies and let him come around on his own. Forsing him to do it anyways will only make him feel more mad. You could tell him I know that this is all hard to adjust to but I really want to get to know you and I would never want to take the place of your mother I just am wanting to get to know you and try it at that. Otherwise ask your husband for some advice, because he should know his son good. Just an idea. Hope it helps. Good luck to you and I hope you guys have a really good relationship someday.
Leave him alone, let him come around on his own. Stop trying to MAKE him part of your family. Give him time to get used to you being his stepmother.
It takes time. My GF went through this and now he totally trusts to talk with her about things. Keep letting him know he is important and loved. It will work out
don't in a hurry, time will come that he will know you are trying your best. give him space to think. sooner or later he'll realize you are worth loving too.
GOOD LUCK!
He wont. It's a loyalty thing, but all teenage boys like lots of nice food.
That is so not easy. You have several things against you. First, fathers have better chance bonding with teenage boys because they were once like that so they can learn to speak their language. Second, even biological mothers can't get close to teenage sons even though they were close when younger. Teenage boys change from year to year as they grow bigger and learn more street stuff from their peers, they just think they are smarter and not feel like talking, period.
Third, they know about the divorce situation and probably are forced into a living situation they don't like but they too old to cry about it. So they take it out on the environment and you are part of that environment.
Only a selected group of boys are into sports (compared to before, they are now into video games or online chats. They need a peer group to ';hang together';, not adults. The most you can do is to help find similar boys for him to hang with. He won't deal with you.
My step son isn't a teen just yet, but I think this might help. Try to get involved in some of the things he likes to do. I know Austin my step son love to build things, so I bought him a model car and we put it together. Now I knew nothing about models but that is what made it interesting because he helped me learn and we boned that way. It is worth a try. Even if your first idea doesn't work keep going back you have to have to be willing to go the long way. Keeping offering him things that he likes to do and he will come around in time. Good luck.
Friendships...teenage girls, PLEASE give me advice!(:?
Okay, if you read all this, I will literally love you forever :) But, I'm going to explain my entire situation, and please please please give me advice! So, I'm in middle school, seventh grade. I have a whole buttload of friends, but lately, we've been getting into big arguements, and I hate it :( I want to make new friends. I was just thinking about all the people I've been wanting to become like, super close friends with. Would it be wrong to make new friends? I'm just sick of the same ones yelling at me everyday, and treating me like trash :( and all of these friends are on the dance team with me, when these other girls I'm about to describe arent :((( Do you still think we could become good friends? %26amp; if so, how!? Well, here:
The first person I would like to start talking to is this girl named Emma. She just moved to my school. Guys are DROOLING over her, she's literally GORGOUES! Like, the first week she got here, I added her on myspace, and sent her a message that said ';Hey, I dont know what you've heard about me, but I'd like to get to know you :) You seem really cool! Text me sometime!'; %26amp; i gave her my number. Well friday, I figured out we have the same testing room, for the test we are taking for the next few weeeks! So, how should I start a conversation when we are just sitting there? lol. But I'm also concerned...she has this fifteen year old boyfriend and puts pictures of them kissing and stuff on myspace, and I'm a christian, and I really dont want to become like that. So yeah, thats the first girl. What's your opinion on becomeing good friends with her?
The second one is this girl named Morgan! Again, she's gorgoues. But; she doesn't go to my school. I know her from church, so we see each other a lot, just don't speeak. I'm actually texting her now, because today is her birthday and she got a cell phone :) I think we have a lot in common, and she seems like an awesome person to be around! But seriously, how can i become good friends with these people!?
The last person is this girl named Chandler. She doesn't go to my school either, just my church. Her and Morgan are like, bestfriends. So i think me and her would become good friends too.
But i'm like, seriously stressing out right now. I just can't seem to find that one bestfriend I can trust everything with, and never argue with, and ugh i just want to cry! I see all these movies, and read all these books about bestfriends, but I can never put myself in the situation!!!! please please please please help me! i'll probably add additional details later! but please!? (=Friendships...teenage girls, PLEASE give me advice!(:?
I totally understand how you feel, I'm in the same situation right now. %26amp; i hate how movies and stuff are full of friends who completely trust each other with everything and never have fights and stuff, it's soo unrealistic :/. Well, I think all 3 girls sound nice and although Emma puts pictures up of her and her boyfriend kissing thats practically normal, many people in my school do that even if they are christian. If she's nice she won't force you to change and become like her anyway. I think it would be good if you made friends with all 3 girls, because you would have Emma at school and if you make friends with one of the girls at your church you would probably naturally become friends with the other anyway as you said they are already friends. :)
Don't stress out over it, it seems like a big deal right now but in a few years from now you'll look back on this as a tiny worry in your life. In the examroom with Emma you should just start up a conversation about anything; even the test. And remember to smile lots :D it makes people think your fun to be around :) And it's definitely better to ditch those girls who are treating you like trash because I had to do the same last year, it gets so hard after a while listening to them putting you down and you don't have to put up with that. Good luck. :DFriendships...teenage girls, PLEASE give me advice!(:?
Why can't you be best friends with all of them? lol I mean I'll admit I have one girl I know whom I consider my top best friend only because we grew up together and she and I are similar in personality, but really, just talk to them! I don't see what's so hard... it can be about some show you watch, or music you listen to, or books you read, or even something in the news.
The first girl you mentioned, I'm a Christian too and many of my friends are non-Christians. As long as you're firm in your believe and don't get easily influenced by others, I think you're fine making friends with her.
So.. you've already gotten some things started I can see, but just keep going! Maybe at the test you can ask that first girl how much she's studied, or how she feels about the test, etc.
Have confidence, and you'll be fine! :)
okay... i used to be in a situation like this one b4... its tough i know!! just always know, God is ON your Side=}...
ok first of all if you want a friend who doesn't backstab you and treat you like dirt... you dont want to be friends with emma... first of all you Are a Christian.. like me... and she doesnt seem like the kind of person i would hang around with, second of all girls who have guys drooling over them arent the best choiceTRUST ME!
Morgan and Chandler seem like a better choice. they go to church and they seem nice.
but remember you want to be nice to everybody, do it the Christian way! if your friends at school diss you and stuff try not to get too upset about it. and when( im saying WHEN, because i know that you will make nice and better friends!=]) when you make other friends still talk to your old friends because then (and i know this from expirience, and theres always drama cuz of this) then they will talk about you and say stuff about you behind your back because they might get jelous and stuff and they might tell your other friends that so and so doesnt even talk to us anymore! who does she think she is and blah blah blah! you get what im saying??
well just remember to stay in contact with all your friendds!!!=]
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
if you wanna give your friendship with the friends your arguing with one more shot. talk to them about how your feeling, about the whole situation set things straight. cause im sure your really fed up. if that doesnt work out, its definitely not wrong to make new friends. infact you can make new friends whenever you want. the girl emma sounds like bad news. i wouldnt hangout with her, she might be a bad influence and may turn out into something you wouldnt like. the other two girls sounds two good friends that you would be compatible with.
aw, it'll take time. just randomly start up a conversation with Emma.. maybe you've heard some things about her (not gossip) hobbies.. etc. if you don't want to be influenced by her, you don't have to be!
my advice to you is to ditch your old friends if they're being jerks. that happened to me, and i cried for days on end, but you'll find new friends. =] surely there are a few people at your school who get along fine with you, and you can hang around with them for the while. Good luck!
Talk to all of them in the same time And try to have lots of friends as much as you can. But the close friends should be 2 or 3 maximum. Forget about the other girls who think they are something and try to talk to Emma before they do and ignore them .They just want to make themseleves feel better by making you feel bad about urself .
No,there is nothing wrong with wanting to make new friends!! I think that both of them sound great to be friends with!I think you should just go up to them and say hi and get a aconversation going.You sound like you are trying too hard to be their friend and you just need to relax be yourself and be really nice and talk.You said one of them was bestfriends with Morgan so be careful with that because you dont want to start any drama.I know how you feel about not having a true bestfriend yet,I felt the same way you did and I was starting to be depressed and thinking my life would never get any better,and when I went to my new school I found my bestfriend and we just clicked.She is a true friend and will be with me forever.When you feel like there is no hope and you will never find a true bestfriend,one will come along and things will get soo much better!Just remeber be yourself and talk.Hope I helped and good luck!!
The first person I would like to start talking to is this girl named Emma. She just moved to my school. Guys are DROOLING over her, she's literally GORGOUES! Like, the first week she got here, I added her on myspace, and sent her a message that said ';Hey, I dont know what you've heard about me, but I'd like to get to know you :) You seem really cool! Text me sometime!'; %26amp; i gave her my number. Well friday, I figured out we have the same testing room, for the test we are taking for the next few weeeks! So, how should I start a conversation when we are just sitting there? lol. But I'm also concerned...she has this fifteen year old boyfriend and puts pictures of them kissing and stuff on myspace, and I'm a christian, and I really dont want to become like that. So yeah, thats the first girl. What's your opinion on becomeing good friends with her?
The second one is this girl named Morgan! Again, she's gorgoues. But; she doesn't go to my school. I know her from church, so we see each other a lot, just don't speeak. I'm actually texting her now, because today is her birthday and she got a cell phone :) I think we have a lot in common, and she seems like an awesome person to be around! But seriously, how can i become good friends with these people!?
The last person is this girl named Chandler. She doesn't go to my school either, just my church. Her and Morgan are like, bestfriends. So i think me and her would become good friends too.
But i'm like, seriously stressing out right now. I just can't seem to find that one bestfriend I can trust everything with, and never argue with, and ugh i just want to cry! I see all these movies, and read all these books about bestfriends, but I can never put myself in the situation!!!! please please please please help me! i'll probably add additional details later! but please!? (=Friendships...teenage girls, PLEASE give me advice!(:?
I totally understand how you feel, I'm in the same situation right now. %26amp; i hate how movies and stuff are full of friends who completely trust each other with everything and never have fights and stuff, it's soo unrealistic :/. Well, I think all 3 girls sound nice and although Emma puts pictures up of her and her boyfriend kissing thats practically normal, many people in my school do that even if they are christian. If she's nice she won't force you to change and become like her anyway. I think it would be good if you made friends with all 3 girls, because you would have Emma at school and if you make friends with one of the girls at your church you would probably naturally become friends with the other anyway as you said they are already friends. :)
Don't stress out over it, it seems like a big deal right now but in a few years from now you'll look back on this as a tiny worry in your life. In the examroom with Emma you should just start up a conversation about anything; even the test. And remember to smile lots :D it makes people think your fun to be around :) And it's definitely better to ditch those girls who are treating you like trash because I had to do the same last year, it gets so hard after a while listening to them putting you down and you don't have to put up with that. Good luck. :DFriendships...teenage girls, PLEASE give me advice!(:?
Why can't you be best friends with all of them? lol I mean I'll admit I have one girl I know whom I consider my top best friend only because we grew up together and she and I are similar in personality, but really, just talk to them! I don't see what's so hard... it can be about some show you watch, or music you listen to, or books you read, or even something in the news.
The first girl you mentioned, I'm a Christian too and many of my friends are non-Christians. As long as you're firm in your believe and don't get easily influenced by others, I think you're fine making friends with her.
So.. you've already gotten some things started I can see, but just keep going! Maybe at the test you can ask that first girl how much she's studied, or how she feels about the test, etc.
Have confidence, and you'll be fine! :)
okay... i used to be in a situation like this one b4... its tough i know!! just always know, God is ON your Side=}...
ok first of all if you want a friend who doesn't backstab you and treat you like dirt... you dont want to be friends with emma... first of all you Are a Christian.. like me... and she doesnt seem like the kind of person i would hang around with, second of all girls who have guys drooling over them arent the best choiceTRUST ME!
Morgan and Chandler seem like a better choice. they go to church and they seem nice.
but remember you want to be nice to everybody, do it the Christian way! if your friends at school diss you and stuff try not to get too upset about it. and when( im saying WHEN, because i know that you will make nice and better friends!=]) when you make other friends still talk to your old friends because then (and i know this from expirience, and theres always drama cuz of this) then they will talk about you and say stuff about you behind your back because they might get jelous and stuff and they might tell your other friends that so and so doesnt even talk to us anymore! who does she think she is and blah blah blah! you get what im saying??
well just remember to stay in contact with all your friendds!!!=]
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
if you wanna give your friendship with the friends your arguing with one more shot. talk to them about how your feeling, about the whole situation set things straight. cause im sure your really fed up. if that doesnt work out, its definitely not wrong to make new friends. infact you can make new friends whenever you want. the girl emma sounds like bad news. i wouldnt hangout with her, she might be a bad influence and may turn out into something you wouldnt like. the other two girls sounds two good friends that you would be compatible with.
aw, it'll take time. just randomly start up a conversation with Emma.. maybe you've heard some things about her (not gossip) hobbies.. etc. if you don't want to be influenced by her, you don't have to be!
my advice to you is to ditch your old friends if they're being jerks. that happened to me, and i cried for days on end, but you'll find new friends. =] surely there are a few people at your school who get along fine with you, and you can hang around with them for the while. Good luck!
Talk to all of them in the same time And try to have lots of friends as much as you can. But the close friends should be 2 or 3 maximum. Forget about the other girls who think they are something and try to talk to Emma before they do and ignore them .They just want to make themseleves feel better by making you feel bad about urself .
No,there is nothing wrong with wanting to make new friends!! I think that both of them sound great to be friends with!I think you should just go up to them and say hi and get a aconversation going.You sound like you are trying too hard to be their friend and you just need to relax be yourself and be really nice and talk.You said one of them was bestfriends with Morgan so be careful with that because you dont want to start any drama.I know how you feel about not having a true bestfriend yet,I felt the same way you did and I was starting to be depressed and thinking my life would never get any better,and when I went to my new school I found my bestfriend and we just clicked.She is a true friend and will be with me forever.When you feel like there is no hope and you will never find a true bestfriend,one will come along and things will get soo much better!Just remeber be yourself and talk.Hope I helped and good luck!!
I'm a silly teenage girl, in need of advice.?
Alright, i'm a lesbian, ';but nobody knows...'; I havn't directly let anyone know anyway. And there is this beautful, perfect girl, (she is gay too.) only i'm not brave enough to tell her ';I ADORE YOU!';. Though I continue to try and make conversation with her, it just comes out as akward, like i'm socially inept. I am about to let go of this crush because I feel that if she had any interest in me at all, she approach me. The thing is she may be shy. I'm just afraid of rejection. How do I deal?I'm a silly teenage girl, in need of advice.?
Start up a conversation, small enough where you are comfortable. Eventually the subject of dating will come up and you can get a good gague of how she feelsI'm a silly teenage girl, in need of advice.?
dont be afraid to show it im by and my family and friends now me and my girl friend is not afraid to show it so plz do not be afraid to show it (goochys daughter)
that was my youngest daughter who is 16 iam proud of her.my daughter went through a terrible time before coming out now Chloes happy and enjoying her life again
an if your friends care about you they will be happy if your happy fear of rejection is a feeling we all have to fight with on both genders.
Try giving it more thought. Being a lesbian is tough. Are you sure you want to do that? You might want to try straight relationships before committing yourself.
rejection bites..but all I am thinking about is how lucky you are...man a nice young fresh piece ...I want that more than any thing right now..I miss a nice piece...sorry I can answer your question I am in my own hell right ..maybe later...maybe never...I want out ..later..
agentsmither,
You didn't tell us how old you are. The answer changes depending on how old you are.
EDIT: I am also a Christian. Please disreguard the answer just below my own. That person doesn't know what they are talking about.
I'm also a teen lesbian.
One of the downfalls of being gay is that acceptance isn't exactly something that you can count on, so waiting for her to approach you is not going to get you far. i NEVER approach a girl whom i suspect to be straight, for fear of the backlash. So if you're not out, this girl may think about you everyday but never approach you.
I recently told another lesbian, ';Um, i probably shouldn't tell you this, and i promise if you want i'll never say anything about it again and i'm so sorry but i really really like you and um...yeah.'; And that wasn't what i had planned to say, and she was already taken, but now we're friends because i let my gaurd down with her, and she knows she can trust me.
Go for it, Girl!!!
tell her ur a lesbian and ask her out.
um sweetie? ';nobody knows'; they do now, you just announced it on a message forum:D
In all seriousness? Go for it..all she can do is say no..good luck!
Why do you have to go out with someone anyways?? Trust me its not the end of the world if you dont make out with someone before youre 20 or whatever. If you really like her mayb you culd write to her but if she doesnot like you she might humiliate you by showing it to the world
Tell her u would like to have a serious talk with her. When u do this 1st tell her that u are nervous and that u don't want to be too forward or say or do something silly. Let her know that u understand that she's shy and u don't want her to think ur a silly or wierd person.
Then choose your words carefully and tell her how u feel.
Okay. The idea that she would approach you if she liked you is silly because you like her, and have you done any approaching? Just ask her. The only way to know is to ask.
Do not be afraid of rejection. It can only help you become a stronger person. I was like that with my girlfriend. Don't let your crush go.
She may want to approach you but is scared herself. How well do you know her? I mean if you are friends you could always go the movies with her - something that allows you to talk - you can talk about the movie afterwards and that will ease into general chit chat.
I know when I wanted to ask my girl out I asked her and her friend who was also my workmate to a movie. It ended up the only my girlfriend could come. Then we went from there. The fact that you invite two out and if your crush comes without her friends it is a fair indication.
If you are both too shy, not one will ever make the first move and you both may have missed out on a great relationship. Ask her out.
IF you Really want advice read the Bible and what GOD says about homosexuals not being in Heaven........unless they repent. One verse is in Revelation towards the end . It is a very unwise lifestyle that you will regret. No sin No Shame. Everyone can make bad choices but when you learn the Truth, I hope you see and understand. You will never regret doing whats right.
I know it's tough, but you need to get over your speech issue and just walk up and start a conversation with her. Try to do something together, like volunteer work or skateboarding. Give yourself opportunities and hopefully you or her will take the opening and ask the other out or something.
Are you sure you're a lesbian? Sometimes during teenage years feelings can be quite screwed up. It's those darn hormones.
However if you're absolutely sure, just approach her and tell her how you feel and that you really like her and take it from there.
Her reaction should tell you whether she thinks the same way
or not. Rejection is something you will eventually learn to live with because it would happen sooner or later. That's just life. You deal with it and let it go and go on to other things. No sense dwelling on it.
u know what why don't u approach her bcoz one thing you already know that shey's gay, at least you have a big chance.
don't be shy or awkward, you won't get anything.
try to have casual conversation so you won't feel awkward, after u get used to it you both can feel more comfortable to talk more.
congratulation ;)
Take it slow and ask her out for coffee(or something non threatening). Ask her about herself, listen to what she has to say. Don't tell her that you adore her, that would freak anyone out.
Risk love.
Don't let go of this crush. You said you haven't let anyone in on your being a lesbian, right? Your crush might not have the slightest idea, too! You just have to tell her outright that you have feelings for her. Too many what-ifs in the lesbian world, hon, believe me. You should just be honest with her, aight? Just tell her you've felt feelings of attraction towards her. Then take it from there. Best of luck!
I believe people who think they are lesbians at your age are a little ';misguided';. If you have had sex with a girl before,I can't blame you. The truth is we are only human sex is probable very pleasurable to everyone. So don't think just, because you've had sex with a girl and liked it your a lesbian. If you have sex with a guy you may realize you prefer that. I've never had sex,but if you like having sex with women more that men...you may be a lesbian.
Also, for someone like me who is only 14 I realize
anything relating to sex,may be very tempting to try.
If you are unsure ask your parents what they think.
I have no idea why so many girls turn out to be lesbians at this age. Most boys won't turn gay,but that is how the world is. Please correct me if I'm wrong. If you are just looking for someone to have sex with,think long and hard about it.
From, Evan Nalepinski {NA-LIP-IN-SKI}
Just ask her.She might not be able to find another girl she likes, but start it off slow, don't run up and yell ';I ADORE YOU!';get to know her first.
Plus, there isn't anything to be ashamed about being gay.(I'm not but I'm talking about other people.)As my mama said,the only reason you ever need to be worried about being gay is if you were dating that person.(My mom said this when she heard that people changed their minds about voting for Clay Aiken in American Idol when they figured out he was gay)
Start up a conversation, small enough where you are comfortable. Eventually the subject of dating will come up and you can get a good gague of how she feelsI'm a silly teenage girl, in need of advice.?
dont be afraid to show it im by and my family and friends now me and my girl friend is not afraid to show it so plz do not be afraid to show it (goochys daughter)
that was my youngest daughter who is 16 iam proud of her.my daughter went through a terrible time before coming out now Chloes happy and enjoying her life again
an if your friends care about you they will be happy if your happy fear of rejection is a feeling we all have to fight with on both genders.
Try giving it more thought. Being a lesbian is tough. Are you sure you want to do that? You might want to try straight relationships before committing yourself.
rejection bites..but all I am thinking about is how lucky you are...man a nice young fresh piece ...I want that more than any thing right now..I miss a nice piece...sorry I can answer your question I am in my own hell right ..maybe later...maybe never...I want out ..later..
agentsmither,
You didn't tell us how old you are. The answer changes depending on how old you are.
EDIT: I am also a Christian. Please disreguard the answer just below my own. That person doesn't know what they are talking about.
I'm also a teen lesbian.
One of the downfalls of being gay is that acceptance isn't exactly something that you can count on, so waiting for her to approach you is not going to get you far. i NEVER approach a girl whom i suspect to be straight, for fear of the backlash. So if you're not out, this girl may think about you everyday but never approach you.
I recently told another lesbian, ';Um, i probably shouldn't tell you this, and i promise if you want i'll never say anything about it again and i'm so sorry but i really really like you and um...yeah.'; And that wasn't what i had planned to say, and she was already taken, but now we're friends because i let my gaurd down with her, and she knows she can trust me.
Go for it, Girl!!!
tell her ur a lesbian and ask her out.
um sweetie? ';nobody knows'; they do now, you just announced it on a message forum:D
In all seriousness? Go for it..all she can do is say no..good luck!
Why do you have to go out with someone anyways?? Trust me its not the end of the world if you dont make out with someone before youre 20 or whatever. If you really like her mayb you culd write to her but if she doesnot like you she might humiliate you by showing it to the world
Tell her u would like to have a serious talk with her. When u do this 1st tell her that u are nervous and that u don't want to be too forward or say or do something silly. Let her know that u understand that she's shy and u don't want her to think ur a silly or wierd person.
Then choose your words carefully and tell her how u feel.
Okay. The idea that she would approach you if she liked you is silly because you like her, and have you done any approaching? Just ask her. The only way to know is to ask.
Do not be afraid of rejection. It can only help you become a stronger person. I was like that with my girlfriend. Don't let your crush go.
She may want to approach you but is scared herself. How well do you know her? I mean if you are friends you could always go the movies with her - something that allows you to talk - you can talk about the movie afterwards and that will ease into general chit chat.
I know when I wanted to ask my girl out I asked her and her friend who was also my workmate to a movie. It ended up the only my girlfriend could come. Then we went from there. The fact that you invite two out and if your crush comes without her friends it is a fair indication.
If you are both too shy, not one will ever make the first move and you both may have missed out on a great relationship. Ask her out.
IF you Really want advice read the Bible and what GOD says about homosexuals not being in Heaven........unless they repent. One verse is in Revelation towards the end . It is a very unwise lifestyle that you will regret. No sin No Shame. Everyone can make bad choices but when you learn the Truth, I hope you see and understand. You will never regret doing whats right.
I know it's tough, but you need to get over your speech issue and just walk up and start a conversation with her. Try to do something together, like volunteer work or skateboarding. Give yourself opportunities and hopefully you or her will take the opening and ask the other out or something.
Are you sure you're a lesbian? Sometimes during teenage years feelings can be quite screwed up. It's those darn hormones.
However if you're absolutely sure, just approach her and tell her how you feel and that you really like her and take it from there.
Her reaction should tell you whether she thinks the same way
or not. Rejection is something you will eventually learn to live with because it would happen sooner or later. That's just life. You deal with it and let it go and go on to other things. No sense dwelling on it.
u know what why don't u approach her bcoz one thing you already know that shey's gay, at least you have a big chance.
don't be shy or awkward, you won't get anything.
try to have casual conversation so you won't feel awkward, after u get used to it you both can feel more comfortable to talk more.
congratulation ;)
Take it slow and ask her out for coffee(or something non threatening). Ask her about herself, listen to what she has to say. Don't tell her that you adore her, that would freak anyone out.
Risk love.
Don't let go of this crush. You said you haven't let anyone in on your being a lesbian, right? Your crush might not have the slightest idea, too! You just have to tell her outright that you have feelings for her. Too many what-ifs in the lesbian world, hon, believe me. You should just be honest with her, aight? Just tell her you've felt feelings of attraction towards her. Then take it from there. Best of luck!
I believe people who think they are lesbians at your age are a little ';misguided';. If you have had sex with a girl before,I can't blame you. The truth is we are only human sex is probable very pleasurable to everyone. So don't think just, because you've had sex with a girl and liked it your a lesbian. If you have sex with a guy you may realize you prefer that. I've never had sex,but if you like having sex with women more that men...you may be a lesbian.
Also, for someone like me who is only 14 I realize
anything relating to sex,may be very tempting to try.
If you are unsure ask your parents what they think.
I have no idea why so many girls turn out to be lesbians at this age. Most boys won't turn gay,but that is how the world is. Please correct me if I'm wrong. If you are just looking for someone to have sex with,think long and hard about it.
From, Evan Nalepinski {NA-LIP-IN-SKI}
Just ask her.She might not be able to find another girl she likes, but start it off slow, don't run up and yell ';I ADORE YOU!';get to know her first.
Plus, there isn't anything to be ashamed about being gay.(I'm not but I'm talking about other people.)As my mama said,the only reason you ever need to be worried about being gay is if you were dating that person.(My mom said this when she heard that people changed their minds about voting for Clay Aiken in American Idol when they figured out he was gay)
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