just recently my male friend introduced me to his friend and they both go to the same college, we swapd numbers + email addys etc, so we txted for a while, met up a few times, we get on reli well+ share similar views + feelings about stuf. It happened quite quickly, from meeting up+ txtin for 2 weeks, then 'saw' each other for 2 weeks + he asked me out on thurs, i accepted..he wants2 progress the relationship, iv only kissed ppl (so im a virgin!) and dnt wan2 do anything until i feel redi and tht im not gna regret it cus I see sex and all the other stuff as special, he understands bt im not sure, hes experienced stuf trough being drunk at parties a few times, nd regrets it im jst worried, i dnt wan2 end up pregnant or with loads of regrets, we get on so well tho, and he doesn鈥檛 wan2 pressure me and is as equally nervous, i jst need adviceHelp on teenage relationship,this is a long q bt if u r gd at advice please help!?
Don't compromise yourself for anyone. You can have a deep, meaningful relationship without having sex, and if he doesn't understand that then you aren't in the right relationship. There are loads of boys out there who don't think of sex as the most important thing, believe it or not.
And, if you decide later that you want to become intimate, make sure you use lots of contraception! It's always good to be careful!
Good luck!Help on teenage relationship,this is a long q bt if u r gd at advice please help!?
The great way to see if a guy respects you is to see if he can wait. If the guy starts to pressure you then get rid. Never give in to pressure remember it's your body and it should be respected.
Good girl. Stick to your guns and wait until you're ready. He sounds a nice guy and will respect you all the more for knowing your own mind. Good luck.
just take things slow and go at your own pace, this guy seems like a nice guy and he respects you so you don't have to rush anything, just get to know him and wait until you are comfortable and sure within yourself before you take the next step with anybody, it is your body and you don't want to have any regrets about who you decide to share yourself with...
first drop the text message lingo your on a PC...write it out
if he understand that you want to wait before having sex then there is no issue really. test him to see how fast he wants this to develop and if he really want sex or he really respect your decision...now don't be fooled and fall for the line ' oh I'll wait until your ready' while getting you heated so you can loose control and give in.
good on you, your body is important to you. and im glad to hear he understands, If he is the one he will wait as long as it takes too you are ready. Dont let anyone change your mind either. You really have answered your own question as long you keep it all in mind.
Ok, your 17 so I think it's safe to say that this might not be your last relationship and you may be in for some more heart ache and break, but your're also in line for some AMAZING times, some of the best years of your life! They're call your 20's! If this guy respects you then he won't pile on the pressure and try to get you in bed! BE STRONG and strict to yourself when it comes to giving your virginity away! I would have to say that at 17 and with regards to relationships... put yourself 1st... I don't want to patronise you by any means but you do have years ahead to look forward to - Don't get serious now... If your out and about on Friday eve let me know and I'll buy you a drink ;-) Good luck x
I think im right in saying that you have really only met this person and you have only been texting him for a month or so. Its too early. You have a rare and sensible attitude to sexuality for these times and you should rely on your gut reaction that you may regret it. This lad may be genuine but some boys are clever and manipulative enough to lul you in. Give it time to really get to know him. His patience and fidelity over a year or more will prove his intentions and make the experience so much better. Be proud of yourself and dont be afraid to say no because anyone worth being with will understand and respect you.
If he says he doesn't want to pressure you but then asks, that IS pressuring you.
Don't let him do anything until you're ready, at the end of the day it's you left with the feelings of regret and possibly a baby.
It might however be worth going to the doctors in advance to discuss contraception because you might feel differently in the near future.
At the end of the day if he really respects you and likes you he'll wait... dating for a few weeks is not very long at all and you still really don't know each other well enough. If he keeps on about it then he doesn't really ';care';, he just wants another notch on his headboard.
Just stand firm for your beliefs and don't do anything till you're ready!
Good luck
youre still young and youll have a good future when you continue resisting to temptations, actually youll know if the person really loves you when theyd respect you, the more time youd spend together the more youll get to know him his motives, personality etc..for me virginity is very important, as long as both of you feel like your responsible enough to face all the cercumstances that would happen as an effect of your actions then go do whatever you wanna do just be careful.. Treasure what you have...
Time is too slow for those who wait;
Too swift for those who fear;
Too long for those who grief;
Too short for those who rejoice;
But for those who love...
Time is Eternity.
Just take it slowly. If he understands how you feel then don't worry about it. Just go out on dates and enjoy each other's company without feeling like you have to do something you don't want to do.
So what do you need advice about ? He likes you, he's aware that you're a virgin and says he doesn't want to pressure you. There's no harm in dating him, it doesn't mean you have to jump into bed with him or have his child. Just get to know each other and have fun. No need to complicate things! You seem confident and intelligent enough to be able to say no if a situation that makes you uncomfortable arises.
Wait until you think your ready I met a bloke when i was 16 %26amp; we both waited until I was ready about 5months into it!
I am now married to him %26amp; have four children we hav been married nearly 12yrs %26amp; i met him 4yrs before that!
So i hav only EVER slept with one man who was the right one for me!
Good luck if he's right for you he will wait for you!!!
please do not type in text messaging format. i hate deciphering. i would recommend waiting to make sure this man is the right man. you only lose your virginity once and you'll remember the person you lost your virginity to forever. make sure it is someone worth remembering. use protection if you do not want to get pregnant.
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