Anybody parents of teenage boys? need advice?

see, my parents don't have influence whatsoever on my younger brother, he's 14. usually i would keep out things like this, i'm not his mom and don't really care. but seeing as how my parents are powerless over anything he does, they are more like his ';slaves';, i figured i would ask for advice from anonymous people here b/c they are worried about them and are asking for my help.


he's always been a pretty good kid, but this year he seemed to have made a complete 360 on his personality. he is extremely aggressive, and does not hesitate to hit or curse out anyone if they cross him, i mean ANYBODY. my mom says she found condoms in his bookbag and each condom had a girl's name on it, and the other day found him secretly making out with a girl in somewhere. he's ok in school i guess, and most of the time we get along well, but he has lashed out at me as well, and for the stupidest things.


he also has foul language and i have heard him cursing out girls over the phone ';playfully';Anybody parents of teenage boys? need advice?
So I think there are two parts to my answer. The first one, is that he is 14. So part of it is pretty normal. I have a 13 going on 36 year old, and over the last three months I have definately seen a big time change in his attitude and behaior. I remember the same thing in my brothers when they both hit about this age, give or take a year. Its like they find their feet and their mouth, and it just takes off with them. So yeah, part of it is pretty normal for some kids. My kiddo shows this behavior by being way more mouthy than he ever has, by going OUT of his way to disrupt every ones flow, and testing his language out on us. There have been two incedents that involved innapropriate behavior with the opposite sex. We just tell him, you are our son, not a buddy. Thats not ok to act/talk like that to us at all. If he does it again he looses something(cell phone and computer hurt the most, so they are used the most) With aggrsseive or obnoxious behavior, I can't like that either, and get loud back at him, where ever we are. He figured it out, if he was going to be a jerk in public, or even here at home to me, I was going to LET him know its not ok. Like your brother he is a pretty good kid too. It was a little shocking when this came out of the blue.





With hitting, and cussing out girls(playful or not!) thats really not ok, not to anyone. It needs to be put to a stop in a hurry before he starts to think he can get away with it. With the condoms, is he using them, or are they an attention getter with his buddies? LOL I guess if I found that in my sons backpack I would cross out the girls name and put his buddies on their, and let him bring THAT to school once. Then he would ever be in for a talking to, and the one big point I would get across is since he is carrying condems I have to assume he is useing them, then go on to seriously restrict the time he has all to himself without parents/adults around for a while. Next stop would be an STD clinic. First to make sure there is no problem, but second to drive home a valuable if embarrassing lesson.....there is no 100% safe sex. (don't want any grandkis just yet...)





Point is all about boundries. If you can't convince your parents to set them, then make sure you set them for yourself with him.Anybody parents of teenage boys? need advice?
im embarassed to sy i tend to have anger roblems so i have counselling
He hit puberty..


don't worry be glad there is nothing you can do..
Wow! I'm am 13. I'm the smartest in my grade at a Catholic school. I've never witnessed something like this. My little brother is 11 and I know that he looks at some porn but I know that is somewhat normal. This is VERY concerning. Porn is normal but writing girls' names on condoms is NOT good. I think that you need to suck it up and tell your parents to DO SOMETHING NOW.